21. It doesn't make you a slut to enjoy giving BJs and it doesn't make you a prude to hate giving BJs. This one sex act is way overblown (LOL, sorry, I'm sorry) but really it's just one thing on an endless menu of sex things you can do to a person. No one decent will cut things off with you if you don't like giving BJs, and I swear if anyone ever slut-shames you for liking BJs, direct them to me immediately because there's a conversation we need to have. You like what you like and hate what you hate, and it's all fine and good.
Combine this with the deep penetration is possible in this position and you have a recipe for a man not lasting very long, but certainly having a powerful orgasm and ejaculating with great force in a very satisfying way… at least to him, if not his partner, though many women say how powerful they find it to watch their partner when he comes like this.
It's easy for any couple to get in a sexual rut. "What happens in a relationship is everything you like and your partner like stays on the menu, but anything either of you doesn't like, isn't tried," explains Fleming. "So make a list of yes/no/not for now and over time as you develop the intimacy, the safety, and the connection, then you can be like 'OK, why don't we go back and visit role play or go back and revisit anal play.'" It's that simple! Think of all the fun you'll have writing the list out together. (And how much easier your sex life will be when the two of you aren't scrambling to think of new sex positions in the heat of the moment.)
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Another study in The New England Journal of Medicine suggests a correlation between oral sex and throat cancer. It is believed that this is due to the transmission of HPV, a virus that has been implicated in the majority of cervical cancers and which has been detected in throat cancer tissue in numerous studies. The study concludes that people who had one to five oral sex partners in their lifetime had approximately a doubled risk of throat cancer compared with those who never engaged in this activity and those with more than five oral sex partners had a 250 percent increased risk.[29][30]

21. It doesn't make you a slut to enjoy giving BJs and it doesn't make you a prude to hate giving BJs. This one sex act is way overblown (LOL, sorry, I'm sorry) but really it's just one thing on an endless menu of sex things you can do to a person. No one decent will cut things off with you if you don't like giving BJs, and I swear if anyone ever slut-shames you for liking BJs, direct them to me immediately because there's a conversation we need to have. You like what you like and hate what you hate, and it's all fine and good.


This tiny hiccup should not deter you from using the Auto Vac Power Pump, however. When used with an enhancement ring that comes with the motorized pump, you can start working on holding off your shots for as long as possible. If you're one of those men who never quite got a handle on how to keep your load under control until JUST the right moment, this gadget will become your new favorite teacher. Think of it as kegel exercises minus the hard work. Simply slide the enhancement ring over your cock, keeping it nice and tight, and start the Auto Vac Power Pump. This clever combination not only maintains your erection, but also prolongs the ejaculation. 

For sure, it all depends on what you feel comfortable with. You could tell your man how much you are looking forward to going down on him along with exactly what you’re going to do to him before you go down on him. During the blow job itself, you could let him know how good he tastes and how hot he makes you. Make sure to check out the dirty phrases section, along with all these dirty talking articles for more advice. This video should also help give you some ideas on what to say to him.

As I mentioned in this section in Chapter 2 of the Blow Job Guide, the tip of your man’s penis (the glans) is by far the most sensitive spot on his penis, particularly the underside. The female equivalent is the clitoris. So focusing your attention on the tip of his penis is going to work well to push him over the edge in the most intense and pleasurable way possible.
B/D, a form of BDSM, is bondage and discipline. Bondage includes the restraint of the body or mind.[55] D/S means "dominant and submissive." A dominant is someone who takes control of someone who wishes to give up control. A submissive is someone who gives up the control to a person who wishes to take control.[55] S/M (sadism and masochism) means an individual who takes pleasure in the humiliation or pain of others. Masochism means an individual who takes pleasure from their own pain or humiliation.[55]

Swinging, on the other hand, involves singles or partners in a committed relationship engaging in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity.[49] The increasing popularity of swinging is regarded by some as arising from the upsurge in sexual activity during the sexual revolution of the 1960s. Swinging sexual activity can take place in a sex club, also known as a swinger club (not to be confused with a strip club).[50]
Try this: reverse finger job. Make two tight rings around his penis with your thumb and index finger (like you’re doing the okay hand symbol 👌), stacking them one on top of the other, in the middle of his shaft. Twist the rings in opposite directions moving from middle to the top and base of his shaft at the same time. Cox calls this a “torrid twist” the the typical one-handed uppy-downey handy. Remember to use lube, though! 

I am 59 and my boyfriend is 63 (believe it or not the sex gets so much better as you mature, I think because we are more confident within ourselves) I love giving him BJs and for the first time ever enjoy swallowing him. I usually give him a BJ and before he cumms I climb on top of him. Unfortunately he reaches a climax very quickly with a BJ what can I do to kind of slow him down.


It may be surprising to hear, but men love foreplay to be drawn out significantly longer more than most women think[3]. So, while giving him a quickie BJ can be super hot for both of you (like say sneaking away for a few minutes at a party), you’ll find that a slow, teasing build up is going to result in your man blowing a bigger load[4]…and a bigger smile on his face. This is probably the most powerful, but also the most overlooked blow job tip you can learn. With this in mind, here are a bunch of great “fellatio foreplay” tips that you can use before giving your man head:
Plant your feet on the mattress, allowing you to push off your feet and move your hips. This can be your first step in becoming a more active receiver during oral sex. By shifting your hips a little up and down, or to the right and left, you can help your lover's tongue find your most sensitive spots. Once you gain more confidence and are ready to go wild, try moving your hips in circles to maximize your pleasure.
The incredible skin-like material inside is top of the line. You can order different sizes of inserts to make sure you get the right fit, and for a tighter grip, the machine has springs that expand or close in for a tight fit, just like a woman holding on tight to keep you from slipping. The only difference is that the Autoblow 2+ can go on all day and night, stroking up and down, full length or halfway - whatever floats your boat. You won't ever have to worry about the pumping action slowing down or taking a break. But you might have to think about whether or not you still have some gism left after 2 or more rounds of firing up.
My fiance doesn’t like getting blow jobs very much, he lets me do it because he knows I like giving them. He says it feels like foreplay for him. I just had a baby and we’re not allowed to have sex for 6 weeks so I keep asking him to let me give him a bj and he always says no. I mean, he likes them when I’m giving them to him and he bums every time but it’s hard to get him to the point of letting me give them. What can I do to make him like them more enjoyable for him?
The coup de gras would be to qickly alternate with regular penetration. Each time bringing him closer and closer to climate when inside of you eventually when he is on the cusp of exploding inside of you quickly take him in your mouth and and keep him in your mouth (think of it as practicing or getting him acustomed to being able to climax in your mouth). Or even maybe surprising him when he is behind you quickly turn around and suck him. Even after regular sex. Don’t stop after he finishes. Women get multiple orgasms at least I wish all girls get to enjoy that. Why shouldn’t a guy get a bonus after climaxing. Note as someone else stated gagging is not a turn on. You need to show that you enjoy cum in your mouth.
It doesn’t matter how memorable your oral skills may be — if your partner is distracted or stuck in her head, she is not going to be able to enjoy herself. “Oral sex offers an interesting paradox; many women love it yet it can find it so challenging to relax into the moment. This is why so many women tense up when their partner goes down," says Dr. Emily Morse, host of the Sex With Emily podcast and author of Hot Sex: Over 200 Things You Can Try Tonight. "The best thing you can say to a woman is, ‘Relax, I’ve got all night.' " Since women can worry about whether you want to be down there and may be self-conscious about how long it takes them to get off, a quick reassurance will go a long way.
Sexual activity can be classified in a number of ways: acts which involve one person (also called autoeroticism) such as masturbation, or two or more people such as vaginal sex, anal sex, oral sex or mutual masturbation. If there are more than two participants in the sex act, it may be referred to as group sex. Autoerotic sexual activity can involve use of dildos, vibrators, anal beads, and other sex toys, though these devices can also be used with a partner.
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People who have a romantic or sexual attraction to both sexes are referred to as bisexual.[38][39] People who have a distinct but not exclusive preference for one sex/gender over the other may also identify themselves as bisexual.[40] Like gay and lesbian individuals, bisexual people who pretend to be heterosexual are often referred to as being closeted.
As I mentioned in this section in Chapter 2 of the Blow Job Guide, the tip of your man’s penis (the glans) is by far the most sensitive spot on his penis, particularly the underside. The female equivalent is the clitoris. So focusing your attention on the tip of his penis is going to work well to push him over the edge in the most intense and pleasurable way possible.
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