^ Robert Crooks; Karla Baur (2010). Our Sexuality. Cengage Learning. pp. 286–289. ISBN 0495812943. Retrieved August 30, 2012. Noncoital forms of sexual intimacy, which have been called outercourse, can be a viable form of birth control. Outercourse includes all avenues of sexual intimacy other than penile–vaginal intercourse, including kissing, touching, mutual masturbation, and oral and anal sex.

But now the good news! Other people have literally already been there, done that, and can help you get over your own pre-BJ woes. Whether you're preparing for your first for thousandth blow job, there are always new lessons to be learned. Especially when it comes to dick-in-mouth. Here are 21 pieces of sage guidance that all grown women wish they'd known before giving their first blow jobs.


My bf and I decided to take things a LOT slower after a little rift in our relationship because I felt a little pressured. Things are a lot better now but he’s gone from ravenous to overly cautious. Foreplay right now is good because we’re on a different level with each other now but I imagine this new excitement will not last long enough and it’ll become boring. What could we do without getting down on eachother? 

8. You do not have to bow down before his erect penis like it's royalty. In movies and TV shows and whatever else, the only BJ position ever depicted is a woman on her knees, bobbing her head back and forth while a man stands up like a statuesque Greek god. This is so rare IRL! You don't have to invest in knee pads, like Stephanie from seventh grade said you would! Stephanie lied to you. Just get on the bed and do it lying down. It's COMFIER.
A 2007 study suggested a correlation between oral sex and throat cancer. It is believed that this is due to the transmission of HPV, a virus that has been implicated in the majority of cervical cancers and which has been detected in throat cancer tissue in numerous studies. The study concludes that people who had one to five oral sex partners in their lifetime had approximately a doubled risk of throat cancer compared with those who never engaged in this activity and those with more than five oral sex partners had a 250 percent increased risk.[27][28][29]
Most world religions have sought to address the moral issues that arise from people's sexuality in society and in human interactions. Each major religion has developed moral codes covering issues of sexuality, morality, ethics etc. Though these moral codes do not address issues of sexuality directly, they seek to regulate the situations which can give rise to sexual interest and to influence people's sexual activities and practices. However, the effect of religious teaching has at times been limited. For example, though most religions disapprove of extramarital sexual relations, it has always been widely practiced. Nevertheless, these religious codes have always had a strong influence on peoples' attitudes to issues of modesty in dress, behavior, speech etc.

Designed by the legend of a man Brian Sloan, (this guy once held his own ‘most-beautiful vagina' contest and actually had women sending him photos of their beautiful pussies from all around the globe) who not only understands what a man needs in this particular department, but he basically created this department when he came up with the Autoblow 2+ - a male sex toy that feels as close to the real thing as I believe is honestly possible.
It feels like a dream. Okay, that's vague, I know. How about - it feels like a blowjob. A blowjob that you can get whenever you feel like it. You can make it last as long as possible, or get off in a minute flat. The choice is yours. With the smooth, silky interior of the sleeve, mixed with a bit of lube, it's difficult to tell it apart from the real deal. And the beads - they move up and down the shaft with such realism, it's incredible. But until you try it, you won't know just how realistic it really is, no matter how long I jabber on for.
What impresses a guy most in bed? Surprisingly (or maybe not so, guys do have a reputation for being lazy), most confessed that they're not all that interested in theatrics or trapeze acts. In fact, many men told us that they're simple creatures who basically just want their wives to show up. But if you're looking to give him something extra-special, they'd love a little bit of this.
Has Other Accessories (Storing Case and Easy-Grip Handle) - Want to make your blowjob life even more convenient and relaxing? Get the easy-grip handle for easier handling during the deed, and then grab the discreet storage case to keep it out of sight, and free from dirt. Although I do think these things should just come with the machine in the first place, you're definitely going to want them and they're worth the extra cost.
My bf and I decided to take things a LOT slower after a little rift in our relationship because I felt a little pressured. Things are a lot better now but he’s gone from ravenous to overly cautious. Foreplay right now is good because we’re on a different level with each other now but I imagine this new excitement will not last long enough and it’ll become boring. What could we do without getting down on eachother?
Powerful industrial strength motor - Without the motor, this would be like any other toy out there. That's why it's so important to have a strong, durable motor. The makers of Autoblow 2+ claim that it's an industrial strength motor, and while I have no way of actually confirming that myself, I will say that it is very powerful, and it sure does get the job done!

Another risk of oral sex is strain on your relationship, particularly if one of you doesn’t enjoy it or has concerns about it. One partner may have anxiety about their oral sexual performance or what their partner will think of them during oral sex. Or oral sex may make one partner feel under the other partner’s control. These are all important issues to resolve before introducing oral sex into your relationship. 


Then he started making the rounds again, emailing my friends the same yawn-inducing proposition. Someone got the idea in their head that they were actually going to say yes to him, review the book, and call it out on all its bullshit. Somehow, three more bloggers jumped on board. Then it turned into a fuckin’ game plan in which a new review would be published each day for four straight days, creating a snowball effect of up-yours reviews of Jack’s Blowjob Lessons.
The Blowjob Heaven Atmosphere. How you handle his brain is as important as how you handle his penis. You'll learn exactly how to build up sexual tension and anticipation by creating an erotic, relaxing, and unique atmosphere. Use this to capture his complete and undivided attention (every time). This "fit for Kings" treatment is what makes him put a diamond ring on your finger.
There is an increased risk of STI transmission if the receiving partner has wounds on his genitals, or if the giving partner has wounds or open sores on or in his or her mouth, or bleeding gums.[10][11][24] Brushing the teeth, flossing, undergoing dental work soon before or after giving fellatio can also increase the risk of transmission, because all of these activities can cause small scratches in the lining of the mouth.[10][11] These wounds, even when they are microscopic, increase the chances of contracting STIs that can be transmitted orally under these conditions.[10][11] Such contact can also lead to more mundane infections from common bacteria and viruses found in, around and secreted from the genital regions. Because of the aforementioned factors, medical sources advise the use of condoms or other effective barrier methods when performing or receiving fellatio with a partner whose STI status is unknown.[9][10][11][21]
I was giving a gentle handy, when he asked if I’d be interested in giving him a blow job. I took off my glasses and pulled down my hair (allowing him to pull it), though I told him that *I* was in charge and if he tried to push my head down, I would stop and bite him (gently of course). He has had issues with ED the last 2 years after having a quad bypass stemming from his juvenile onset diabetes, so he has been able to climax perhaps one other time in the last 2 years. I wanted to make this one unforgettable! So I introduced the S&M into our evening. After a long blow job, I needed a drink of water and ordered him to keep his hand moving and his dick hard until I was ready to get back to him (I must say, I really enjoyed being dominant!). As I was finishing off an entire bottle of water, he says he was about to cum. I quickly went back to his cock, hands gently massaging his balls, and instead of using my tongue to write letters on his shaft…I sucked as if his dick would provide me with the last oxygen on the planet. As I felt him cum, I provided an even stronger suction. I had 4 large gulps of his cum to swallow while not letting up on the suction. He said that was the absolute best orgasm he had ever experienced in his life.
During the orgasm phase, breathing becomes extremely rapid and the pelvic muscles begin a series of rhythmic contractions. Both men and women experience quick cycles of muscle contraction of lower pelvic muscles and women often experience uterine and vaginal contractions; this experience can be described as intensely pleasurable, but roughly 15% of women never experience orgasm and half report having faked it.[4] A large genetic component is associated with how often women experience orgasm.[4]

It's no secret that women have some very specific pleasure points on their body, and hopefully, your guy is no stranger to the clitoris and G-spot. Yet you might be surprised to know that the male body also has particular erogenous zones, or trigger spots, that—when stimulated—will make his orgasms more powerful and your sex life better than ever. "Orgasm is the release of sexual tension, and tension is created through gradually increasing and varying touch and pressure on his passion points," says Claire Cavanah, cofounder of Babeland, a national chain of women-owned sex shops, and coauthor of Moregasm: Babeland's Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex and Sex Toys 101. "Licking and biting with your mouth, then adding in heat or cold sensations by sucking on an ice cube or drinking hot tea will drive him wild." To find out where to touch him to make his toes curl, click through our hot list. (Related: The 4 Simple Things You Need for Amazing Sex) 
There is an increased risk of STI transmission if the receiving partner has wounds on his or her genitals, or if the giving partner has wounds or open sores on or in his or her mouth, or bleeding gums.[5][6][13] Brushing the teeth, flossing, undergoing dental work soon before or after performing oral sex can also increase the risk of transmission, because all of these activities can cause small scratches in the lining of the mouth.[5][6] These wounds, even when they are microscopic, increase the chances of contracting STIs that can be transmitted orally under these conditions.[5][6] Such contact can also lead to more mundane infections from common bacteria and viruses found in, around and secreted from the genital regions. Because of the aforementioned factors, medical sources advise the use of condoms or other effective barrier methods when performing or receiving oral sex with a partner whose STI status is unknown.[4][5][6][26]

Does size really matter? The answer usually depends on who you're asking, and science has a wide range of explanation. Some people, however, think it's all about the performance. Based on a study, most women are satisfied with whatever weapon their partner has. That being said, the owner of a member whose size doesn't measure up may not feel the same way.
Lack Of Variation – An obvious, but often forgotten blow job “don’t” is a lack of variation. Just like performing the same tasks over and over at the office make for a dull, boring workday, this is also the case for your sex life. In fact studies have shown that while both men and women enjoy new sexual experiences, men have a higher preference for new and exciting sexual stimulation[8], so why not give it to him!

3. You can literally ask the guy what he wants. Before your mouth is, ahem, occupied, use it to ask questions. Does he want you to get your hands involved? Does he want to lie down on his back or stand up? Does he prefer lots of noises, or nah? Asking questions and getting answers is not only a fun way to get ~in the mood~, but it can help put any concerns or anxieties you have at ease.
Don’t be afraid of breaking out the vibrator! It can be an invaluable tool to the art of oral.  The average woman takes 20 minutes to climax from oral sex, so you’re going to be there for a while. There’s no shame in implementing the help of a tried-and-true toy, suggests Somoza. “Use something small and easily handled so you can still feel like you’re in control,” she says. “Put the vibrator on the clitoral hood, then spend some time with your tongue in the labia area.”
The thing is, I'm not your boyfriend and I don't have a reason to lie to you that your blowjobs are great when, in fact, you probably have no idea what you're doing. Even if you're "good" – that just doesn't cut it. You have no idea how mind-blowing your blowjobs can actually be. If don't ruin blowjobs for any other woman that ever puts her lips around him, then you're not doing a good job and you're not protecting your relationship.
Cultural views on oral sex range from aversion to high regard.[1] It, especially fellatio,[34] has been considered taboo, or at least discouraged, in many cultures and parts of the world.[1] Laws of some jurisdictions regard oral sex as penetrative sex for the purposes of sexual offenses with regard to the act, but most countries do not have laws which ban the practice itself, in contrast to anal sex or extramarital sex.

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