Lines like “it doesn’t mean we’ve had real sex – you’ll still be a virgin”, or “if you don’t want sex then you should at least go down on me”, or “it’s not as risky as having intercourse”, all suggest pressure and coercion. Remember that oral sex should be fun for both of you. If one person is doing it because they feel pressured, it can sour the whole experience.

Clinical research has tentatively linked fellatio with immune modulation,[30] indicating it may reduce the chance of complications during pregnancy. The potentially fatal complication pre-eclampsia was observed to occur less in women who regularly engaged in fellatio, with those who also ingested their partner's semen being at the least risk.[31] The results were consistent with the fact that semen contains TGF-β1, the exchange of which between partners having a causal reduction in risk of pre-eclampsia caused by an immunological reaction. It is worth noting that fellatio is not the only viable mechanism for the transmission of TGF-β1.[30][32][33]
Sexual activity can be classified into the gender and sexual orientation of the participants, as well as by the relationship of the participants. For example, the relationships can be ones of marriage, intimate partners, casual sex partners or anonymous. Sexual activity can be regarded as conventional or as alternative, involving, for example, fetishism, paraphilia, or BDSM activities.[1][2] Fetishism can take many forms ranging from the desire for certain body parts, for example large breasts, navels or foot worship. The object of desire can often be shoes, boots, lingerie, clothing, leather or rubber items. Some non-conventional autoerotic practices can be dangerous. These include erotic asphyxiation and self-bondage. The potential for injury or even death that exists while engaging in the partnered versions of these fetishes (choking and bondage, respectively) becomes drastically increased in the autoerotic case due to the isolation and lack of assistance in the event of a problem.
We all know the classic 69 position, but very few people can actually reach orgasm in this position. One of the greatest things about oral sex is taking turns. One person gets to totally relax and receive, and the other person can focus on giving as much pleasure as possible. 69 can be really distracting, and most people just end up moaning and gasping rather than focusing on giving.
In this position the man can thrust deeply, and the further back woman takes her legs, the more deeply he can penetrate her. The truth here, of course, is that deeper penetration may well activate her G spot if she is highly aroused, and cause her to orgasm more easily! The skilful nature of bringing a woman to orgasm are described in Orgasm Arts, a program by Jason Julius.
Something that made giving him head easier and more enjoyable for me was sitting on his face while I do it. When I’m about to get off, I stop sucking and start jacking. ? But, my man loves it when I’m cumming; yours may not get turned on so easily by it, different strokes and all that. Try it one night when you feel frisky. Over time the jaw muscles you use to do it with will get stronger and it’ll get easier.
My fiance doesn’t like getting blow jobs very much, he lets me do it because he knows I like giving them. He says it feels like foreplay for him. I just had a baby and we’re not allowed to have sex for 6 weeks so I keep asking him to let me give him a bj and he always says no. I mean, he likes them when I’m giving them to him and he bums every time but it’s hard to get him to the point of letting me give them. What can I do to make him like them more enjoyable for him?
I am 59 and my boyfriend is 63 (believe it or not the sex gets so much better as you mature, I think because we are more confident within ourselves) I love giving him BJs and for the first time ever enjoy swallowing him. I usually give him a BJ and before he cumms I climb on top of him. Unfortunately he reaches a climax very quickly with a BJ what can I do to kind of slow him down.
Combine this with the deep penetration is possible in this position and you have a recipe for a man not lasting very long, but certainly having a powerful orgasm and ejaculating with great force in a very satisfying way… at least to him, if not his partner, though many women say how powerful they find it to watch their partner when he comes like this. 

Best is get him super stoned and lay back on bed naked. put on music and turn lights really low but enough to see in his eyes.let him fantasize while you take time and move with his every move finding what really gets him turned on. the goal is for him to disapear in his mind and forget who is with and get him out of control where he never been and if he cool let him talk dirty and tell him ok to make swallow and a nasty as he wants.the best are ones who would never do such a thing but when they finally try they cant get enough.if you cant blow his mind and be the best he has ever had then waste of time. The ones most resitant are most afraid they will like to much and holding back from living good. only do this with the one you are down with and have a super hot passion for. hard to beat someone with a pasion for it and messing out if you dont get someone who just wants to get someone off versu getting someone special off.
Research has found that people also engage in sexual activity for reasons associated with self-determination theory. The self-determination theory can be applied to a sexual relationship when the participants have positive feelings associated with the relationship. These participants do not feel guilty or coerced into the partnership.[15] Researchers have proposed the model of self-determined sexual motivation. The purpose of this model is to connect self-determination and sexual motivation.[16] This model has helped to explain how people are sexually motivated when involved in self-determined dating relationships. This model also links the positive outcomes, (satisfying the need for autonomy, competence, and relatedness) gained from sexual motivations.[16]
^ "Raid Mae West Play, Seize 56 At Opening. Police Arrest Entire Cast of "Pleasure Man" After Last Act at Biltmore Theatre. Indecency Is Charged. Law Hits Actress-Author a Second Time. Playhouse Is Surrounded After Show. No Theatre Attaches Held. Police Guard Exits. Arrest Order Treated Lightly. Author Freed on Bail. 21 Seized in Raid on "Sex"". New York Times. October 2, 1928. Retrieved 2011-05-02. The entire cast of "Pleasure Man," fifty-five actors, actresses and musicians, was arrested on the stage of the Biltmore Theatre, Forty-seventh Street, between Broadway and Eighth Avenue, last night immediately after the curtain fell on the first performance.
Semen ingestion has had central importance in some cultures around the world. In Baruya culture, there is a secret ritual in which boys give fellatio to young males and drink their semen, to "re-engender themselves before marriage".[35] Among the Sambia people of Papua New Guinea, beginning at age seven all males regularly submit to oral penetration by adolescents in a six-stage initiation process, as the Sambia believe that regular ingestion of an older boy's semen is necessary for a prepubescent youth to achieve sexual maturity and masculinity. By the time he enters mid-puberty he in turn participates in passing his semen on to younger males.[36][37]
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Keisha, I am sorry to hear that. Do you have the same issue with other guys? It might be an attraction thing (heck it might be a sexual orientation thing). I can’t see telling someone not to masturbate, though I could see offering to watch and learn and help, but you should find someone who is more compatible with you sexually, if sex is important to you. Mutual satisfaction is terribly helpful.
Facesitting is a form of oral sex in which the receiver sits on the giver's face and pushes into it with his or her genitals. Oral sex can also be performed by both partners at the same time in the so-called "sixty-nine" position. Spitting and/or swallowing of the ejaculatory fluids or giving a pearl necklace may cause different sexual stimulations. Autofellatio is a possible but rare variant; autocunnilingus may also be possible for women with extremely flexible spines.

Thank you for your interest oral sex etiquette. While it's true that women actively pursue a good time, performing oral sex is not the act of martyrdom some would have you believe. You see, a lot of women have an innate attraction to the penis, or at least think it's "neat." Hence, the creation of sex toys, folks. So here's your guide to making the experience enjoyable for all parties involved. It's certainly possible, if you study up.


Using your hands is a powerful blow job technique while giving your man oral sex. And in case you’re wondering, it’s NOT cheating! In fact, you can give your guy way more pleasure and enjoyment by using your hands on his penis and balls during your blow job. While the in-depth Hand Job Guide will teach you the most pleasurable hand job techniques you need to know, here’s three that you can start using tonight.
90% of men adore when women give them a blowjob; also, it is quite important for women to make it more diverse and not in such a systematic way, because there is a major risk for her to be tired of it. There is a great range of blowjob positions, starting from the most traditional, with a relaxedmanlying on his back, to the fastidious one, when a denuded female partner at the maximum leveloverwhelms all the sensations experienced by her male partner. Primarily, a blowjob position directly-proportionally depends on your partner’s preferences, thus, take in mind all his feelings and desires. The blowjob involves using the hands and mouth, fingers, skilled tongue and even breast: caresshis penisgently, be sufficientlyrude, – and the resultwill not be long in coming. Many of women consider blowjob as something insufferable, but mind the fact, that while using such a petting, the man is entirely under your control and you may do with him everything you want.
My bf and I decided to take things a LOT slower after a little rift in our relationship because I felt a little pressured. Things are a lot better now but he’s gone from ravenous to overly cautious. Foreplay right now is good because we’re on a different level with each other now but I imagine this new excitement will not last long enough and it’ll become boring. What could we do without getting down on eachother?

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