My wife has always been a giver since we met. She was the first one to ever do that for me and it was the best feeling any woman ever gave me. She is always practicing her craft to get better and man there ain’t no better intimacy than a woman who loves her man and uses her oral skills to make it the best she can for her man. And because she is so good and loving at it I have no interest in having an affair, it’s the most cruel and humiliating thing I could ever do to her. I love my wife for a lot of other reasons besides good sex, and I could not hurt her like this. I trust her and she trusts me, and I think that trust is partly what makes for great intimacy, and the ability to completely let go of ones self while under the control of another. And an orgasm comes while under the control of another person. So as long as she is in control of giving me mind blowing orgasms, I just have to let go and let her control my orgasm, and bring it to an explosive ending. And for that, I applaud her and thank her for it. Babe I love you.
The Twister – Using your tongue and lots of saliva, you can perform a ultra-pleasurable and satisfying blow job technique I like to call the Twister. While holding his penis steady in one or both hands, start making a slow circular motion with your tongue around the top of his penis. You can alternate direction and speed to add some variety, but this blissful blow job technique alone is enough to give him a thrilling blow job from start to finish.
Fellatio may reduce the risk of miscarriages by inducing immunological tolerance in the woman by exposure to the proteins in her partner's semen, a process known as paternal tolerance. While any exposure to a partner's semen appears to decrease a woman's chances for the various immunological disorders that can occur during pregnancy, immunological tolerance could be most quickly established through the oral introduction and gastrointestinal absorption of semen.[31][32] Recognizing that some of the studies potentially included the presence of confounding factors, such as the possibility that women who regularly perform fellatio and swallow semen also engage in more frequent intercourse, the researchers also noted that, either way, "the data still overwhelmingly supports the main theory" behind all their studies—that repeated exposure to semen establishes the maternal immunological tolerance necessary for a safe and successful pregnancy.[32][33]
A 1993 survey concluded that 55 percent of women found oral sex "very normal," 32 percent found it "all right," 9 percent found it "kinky," 4 percent found it "unusual," and 1 percent didn't realize there was any other kind. (Strangely, when subjects were asked about instant pudding, the responses were identical.) Another study from the '90s, the unofficial "Decade of the Blow Job," concluded that "twice as many women who went to college have given or received oral sex compared with those who did not finish high school," which clears up a lot of confusion about the definition of "liberal arts." According to sexuality educator Logan Levkoff, while many women do it simply out of reciprocity, "there are some women who love to give oral sex," wanting nothing in return.
Other slang terms for oral sex include going down on (male or female), licking out and muff diving (female), blow job (male), dome (male or female), sucking off (male), playing the skin flute (male recipient), rolling cigars (male recipient), lolly-gagging (gay male-on-male), gaining knowledge (male recipient) and bust down (male). Forced fellatio is often called Egyptian rape or simply Egyptian; this goes back to the time of the Crusades when Mamluks were alleged to force their Christian captives to do this.[44]
#10 Use every inch of his body. Yes, we all know that the penis is a big part of sex, but it’s not the main part. Stick his fingers in your mouth, scratch his back, pull his hair, spit on him, rub his balls, these are all highly arousing acts because his senses are heightened. Pay attention to the penis, but you shouldn’t focus all your attention on it. There are so many other areas that need attention as well.
#7 Make some noise. Who gives a shit if the neighbors can hear you? What is sex without any screaming, moaning, or dirty talk? Men want to hear you enjoying the experience with them. So, if you feel comfortable doing so, verbalize it. You don’t have to give him an essay of how it feels but don’t be afraid to tell him to fuck you harder or that he’s being a bad boy. [Read: How to sound sexy in bed and arouse your partner]
The Kiss Trail – A red hot blow job tip that allows you to move smoothly from kissing your husband to taking him in your mouth is to work slowly down from his lips to his penis by kissing your way down. So you can move from his lips to his neck to his chest to his stomach until your reach his groin area. Of course, this works way better if he is naked.
In a 2015 study, interviewed BDSM participants have mentioned that the activities have helped to create higher levels of connection, intimacy, trust and communication between partners.[55] The study suggests that dominants and submissives exchange control for each other's pleasure and to satisfy a need. The participants have remarked that they enjoy pleasing their partner in any way they can and many surveyed have felt that this is one of the best things about BDSM. It gives a submissive pleasure to do things in general for their dominant. Where a Dominant enjoys making their encounters all about the submissive. They enjoy doing things that makes their submissive happy. The findings indicate that the surveyed submissives and dominants found BDSM play more pleasurable and fun. The participants have also mentioned improvements in their personal growth, romantic relationships, sense of community and self, the dominant's confidence, and their coping with everyday things by giving them a psychological release.[55]
In 2010, I was alarmed when an ENT surgeon showed me the larynx (voicebox) of a man who had had a lot of oral sex partners. The patient was hoarse, and he found it difficult to speak. The area round his vocal cords was virtually 'swamped' by a network of fine, white threads. These, it transpired, were caused by the HPV virus. Fortunately, he did recover.
Now don't get me wrong I love giving head I always have but it's very discouraging when you can't make your own husband cum! He is in the military and left for training for a couple weeks and I wanted to do something nice for him when he got home so I bought your book. My attitude has been shit for the past couple years because I've been so frustrated and I really worked on that and I think I did a pretty damn good job! When he came home I tried out your advice and not only did he cum he said it was the best head he's ever gotten and he said his orgasm was deeper and more intense than its ever been! I also had a lot of fun and enjoyed making him feel so good. So just wanted to say thanks, it really helped!
Try this: Suck his lower lip into your mouth the next time you’re making out and use the tip of your tongue to stroke this under-lip area. "That motion stimulates the whole erogenous zone in a teasing way, which will put him on the erotic edge," says Paget. "And by keeping his lower lip inside yours, you magnify the sensation. It'll feel as if electric currents are shooting from his mouth straight to his member."

Drive him wild: "Gently flicking the raphe with your tongue feels great to most men," Cavanah says. "Let him guide you on how much pressure he likes, because the amount varies depending on the guy." To get him really hot, sip on very warm tea and then flick your heated tongue over this sensitive area. He'll lose himself in the new feelings, and novelty can make for more powerful orgasms.  
There are probably a thousand ways to go down on a guy, but only a few dozen that actually make a guy forget his own name. Improper and made-up techniques may give no reaction to a man or even make him feel like you have no idea what you are doing. He'll probably even lose his erection, let alone not orgasm. Use the simple to understand, step-by-step techniques from my guide and I guarantee your man will be in shock.
I just want to say thanks for your book! Got all my tips lol. I gave my boyfriend head for the first time ever yesterday, it was great, he loved it and so did i, lol. I was terrified because i thought i was going to something wrong, but it all went ok, thank god. Anyway thank you because your website really helped. Plus i'm a good girl, i swallowed lol.
i have found your information very useful, to be honest i have never actually given head before. i wanted some information to get me started and i think this has been really useful. i have talking to my guy about this for a little while now and this has given me more confidence. enthusiasm is the key! i really want to pleasure him, does it feel any different for the man with or without a condom on? should i be using a condom for my first time? is it better to use the flavored lube or condoms for the first time? should i make any eye contact while giving the blow job or will it make it awkward? i dont fancy the idea of swallowing so do i just tell him that before we get started? your information has been really helpful so far but answering this questions would be fantastic! thanks
Sexual dysfunction is the inability to react emotionally or physically to sexual stimulation in a way projected of the average healthy person; it can affect different stages in the sexual response cycles, which are desire, excitement and orgasm.[8] In the media, sexual dysfunction is often associated with men, but in actuality, it is more commonly observed in females (43 percent) than males (31 percent).[9]
9. You don't have to swallow and then giggle and say, "OMG, it's so fun to swallow your hot steamy cum, I really love it a lot!" Also, you just don't have to swallow at all. The man whose dick you're sucking is not going to scream and holler at you if you demurely dispose of his cum into a napkin or cup or something. He might get a little upset if you spit it directly onto his face, but that's really just between the two of you.
If you’re happy and comfortable with the person you’re with then oral sex can be a great way to get physically closer and learn what turns each other on. But remember that you can pause or stop at any point you want, and the same is true for your partner. Just because you have started something doesn’t mean you need to continue – stopping is actually very normal.
This is a letter of success.. though not what I set out to succeed but success none the less. Christian never did get a second bj out of me because I dumped his sorry ass after him putting me down one time too often. I met a new guy in Arizona... and last night we had our third date - here at my house for swimming, dinner cooked by me and hang out.
Remember what I mentioned in Chapter 1 of the Blow Job Guide, that different guys have different preferences. So while some guys adore having their balls stimulated, a small percentage of guys don’t enjoy it much at all. Don’t worry about this as it’s just your man’s personal prefence. If your husband or boyfriend does enjoy it, then you’ll find that it’s much easier for you to pleasure his balls if he trims his hair down there.

I’m the same way. If he truly enjoys and wants a blow job then you need to be totally enthusiastic. In a way it’s not just the sensation it is part visual and you have to look and sound the part if you will. You have to be sexy. Put on eye make up. And say sexy sensual things to him. Bigger yet use the 69 position to show your beautiful privates to his eyes. I even love seeing sexy underwear myself. Basically you have to stimulate all his senses. But above all he needs to believe you really enjoy having him in your mouth. Think of it akin to overloading his senses to make him believe he is inside your other private part.
Regardless of if you’re performing fellatio or cunnilingus, it’s supes important to show enthusiasm. Think about it. The best technical skill in the world doesn’t matter if the giver seems bored, uninterested, or even worse, turned off while going down on you. Kovacs recommends vocal enthusiasm, eye contact, and smiling to show your partner how much you enjoy pleasing them. It’s also important to be okay with messiness. “Show your partner that you like having their deliciousness all over your face. That nothing about them doesn't turn you on, and that you delight in their delight.” says Kovacs.
Hey guys. So me and my boy friend have been dating for about five days now. And he really wants to have sex with me. But I’ve never done it before. And this website is too much to remember. What’s simple enough for me to turn him on? Like, what’s the simplest way to suck his dick. And does it hurt? I have to say, he does turn me on. And I turn him on too. I just don’t want to panic when I do it with him. Any tips?
8. You do not have to bow down before his erect penis like it's royalty. In movies and TV shows and whatever else, the only BJ position ever depicted is a woman on her knees, bobbing her head back and forth while a man stands up like a statuesque Greek god. This is so rare IRL! You don't have to invest in knee pads, like Stephanie from seventh grade said you would! Stephanie lied to you. Just get on the bed and do it lying down. It's COMFIER.
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