^ Ken Plummer (2002). Modern Homosexualities: Fragments of Lesbian and Gay Experiences. Routledge. pp. 187–191. ISBN 1134922426. Retrieved August 24, 2013. The social construction of 'sex' as vaginal intercourse affects how other forms of sexual activity are evaluated as sexually satisfying or arousing; in some cases whether an activity is seen as a sexual act at all. For example, unless a woman has been penetrated by a man's penis she is still technically a virgin even if she has had lots of sexual experience.

^ Jump up to: a b c d See here and pages 47-49 for views on what constitutes virginity loss and therefore sexual intercourse or other sexual activity; source discusses how gay and lesbian individuals define virginity loss, and how the majority of researchers and heterosexuals define virginity loss/"technical virginity" by whether or not a person has engaged in penile-vaginal sex. Laura M. Carpenter (2005). Virginity Lost: An Intimate Portrait of First Sexual Experiences. NYU Press. pp. 295 pages. ISBN 0-8147-1652-0. Retrieved October 9, 2011.
The trick here is getting the height right. The guy needs to be able to line up with the head without stretching or squatting. You can also try this oral sex position while lying on a dining room table or even a pool table. Remember, deep throating is a very advanced skill and won't be pleasurable or comfortable for everyone, so go slowly with exploring this position and make sure you're both enjoying it.
Then he started making the rounds again, emailing my friends the same yawn-inducing proposition. Someone got the idea in their head that they were actually going to say yes to him, review the book, and call it out on all its bullshit. Somehow, three more bloggers jumped on board. Then it turned into a fuckin’ game plan in which a new review would be published each day for four straight days, creating a snowball effect of up-yours reviews of Jack’s Blowjob Lessons.
B/D, a form of BDSM, is bondage and discipline. Bondage includes the restraint of the body or mind.[55] D/S means "dominant and submissive." A dominant is someone who takes control of someone who wishes to give up control. A submissive is someone who gives up the control to a person who wishes to take control.[55] S/M (sadism and masochism) means an individual who takes pleasure in the humiliation or pain of others. Masochism means an individual who takes pleasure from their own pain or humiliation.[55]

A 1993 survey concluded that 55 percent of women found oral sex "very normal," 32 percent found it "all right," 9 percent found it "kinky," 4 percent found it "unusual," and 1 percent didn't realize there was any other kind. (Strangely, when subjects were asked about instant pudding, the responses were identical.) Another study from the '90s, the unofficial "Decade of the Blow Job," concluded that "twice as many women who went to college have given or received oral sex compared with those who did not finish high school," which clears up a lot of confusion about the definition of "liberal arts." According to sexuality educator Logan Levkoff, while many women do it simply out of reciprocity, "there are some women who love to give oral sex," wanting nothing in return.
Unlike the usual "power neutral" relationships and play styles commonly followed by couples, activities and relationships within a BDSM context are often characterized by the participants' taking on complementary, but unequal roles; thus, the idea of informed consent of both the partners becomes essential. Participants who exert sexual dominance over their partners are known as dominants or tops, while participants who take the passive, receiving, or obedient role are known as submissives or bottoms.
We all know the classic 69 position, but very few people can actually reach orgasm in this position. One of the greatest things about oral sex is taking turns. One person gets to totally relax and receive, and the other person can focus on giving as much pleasure as possible. 69 can be really distracting, and most people just end up moaning and gasping rather than focusing on giving.

Oral Herpes: You can transmit oral herpes to your partner's genital. In fact, HSV-1 (the type that causes cold sores) may be even more contagious than HSV-2 (the type associated with genital herpes). In general, performing oral sex on a woman is safer than performing oral sex on a man. However, herpes transmission in both directions is a real risk.

Too Much Variation! – So you’ve bookmarked the Bad Girls Bible and read it every day to learn new sex positions (check out over 100 different sex positions with illustrations in the Sex Positions Guide here), blow job tips and how to talk dirty (read the Dirty Talking Guide here). Everyday you’re learning more and more sex tips to try on your man to give him powerful orgasms. You may think that you should try something completely new on him every day while forgetting about the blow job tips that you’ve previously used to pleasure him.


Out & About – If you are both out in public together or at a dinner party where you can’t possibly be intimate, then it’s the perfect time to lean across and whisper something in his ear to get him thinking about what you’ve got planned for later. The Dirty Talking Guide will give you step-by-step advice, examples, and tips on what to say to tease, tantalize and amp up the sexual tension with your man.
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Jerk & Suck – Jerking your man off while giving him a handjob at the same time is a super way to maximize his pleasure. Simply take the first inch or two of his penis into your mouth and then wrap one hand around his shaft. While using a simple technique like the Suck On This technique I described in Chapter 2, you can also run your hand up and down his shaft at the same time, giving him a handjob.


The age at which adolescents tend to become sexually active varies considerably between different cultures and from time to time. (See Prevalence of virginity.) The first sexual act of a child or adolescent is sometimes referred to as the sexualization of the child, and may be considered as a milestone or a change of status, as the loss of virginity or innocence. Youth are legally free to have intercourse after they reach the age of consent.

But what actually makes the Autoblow 2+ a cut above the rest? I'll admit I was a little dubious about it the first time we met, but nothing a little “getting to know you” couldn't resolve. As an automatic blowjob machine, the Autoblow 2+ is designed to be used completely hands-free. I've tried many other wank machines in the past, some that even have claimed to be hands-free, but the Autoblow 2+ is the only one that actually gets the job done without using my own two hands to guide it.

This is where I always hear ‘But it's not real! How can it possibly feel that good?!' And my response is that the interior of the SOM Rocket may not BE real, but it certainly FEELS real. Made of a stretchy material, complete with holes, ridges and bumps for a stimulating effect, it is more than what I could even expect from the ‘real deal'. The material also ensures a tight grip for that snug fit and ultimate stroking and pumping action. But the real bonus is the angled position that mimics how you would be poised when given an actual blowjob, as the SOM Rocket counteracts with its downward thrusting motion.
Jerk & Suck – Jerking your man off while giving him a handjob at the same time is a super way to maximize his pleasure. Simply take the first inch or two of his penis into your mouth and then wrap one hand around his shaft. While using a simple technique like the Suck On This technique I described in Chapter 2, you can also run your hand up and down his shaft at the same time, giving him a handjob.
Sleeves come in 3 sizes - Have you ever purchased a male sex toy in the past, and you try to fill it up with your one-eyed monster just to find that it's like putting a square peg in a round hole? You're just too big? Okay, I haven't had that happen (some guys have though I imagine) - but I have had the opposite - I barely fill it up and of course then the sensations just aren't there. The Autoblow 2+ comes with three different sleeve sizes so you're sure to get the tight fit that you need for top level pleasure.
Never ever underestimate the power of a see-through teddy to get your guy standing tall. "Anything that makes a woman feel good in her body and sexually confident is very sexy," says sex and relationship therapist Megan Fleming, Ph.D. And nothing is sexier to your guy than confidence. I can personally attest to this fact; my man cannot resist this sexy little (and I emphasize little) red nightie that a nonchalantly stroll around in on occasion. But it's not even just wearing the lingerie. It's the tease, the sexy text you send him letting him know you bought some lingerie but he has to wait until the evening. Take your time and take charge, because the ball is in your court and your man wants it all.

There are many laws and social customs which prohibit, or in some way affect sexual activities. These laws and customs vary from country to country, and have varied over time. They cover, for example, a prohibition to non-consensual sex, to sex outside marriage, to sexual activity in public, besides many others. Many of these restrictions are non-controversial, but some have been the subject of public debate.


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18. Literally no one can deep-throat without gagging. I vaguely remember some girl in, like, ninth grade telling me that all grown women literally swallow lidocaine or the stuff in those Orajel swabs before giving a blow job so they don't gag on a dick. Don't do this! Don't drink lidocaine! No! The solution here is to just not deep-throat a penis. Gag reflexes exist for a reason. And you definitely don't want to throw up on someone you ostensibly like.
Most countries do not have laws that ban the practice of oral sex, though some cultures may consider it taboo.[3] People may also have negative feelings or sexual inhibitions about giving or receiving oral sex; they may refuse to engage in it of their own volition.[3] Commonly, people do not regard forms of oral sex as affecting the virginity of either partner, though opinions on the matter vary.[12][13][14][15]
Other slang terms for oral sex include going down on (male or female), licking out and muff diving (female), blow job (male), dome (male or female), sucking off (male), playing the skin flute (male recipient), rolling cigars (male recipient), lolly-gagging (gay male-on-male), gaining knowledge (male recipient) and bust down (male). Forced fellatio is often called Egyptian rape or simply Egyptian; this goes back to the time of the Crusades when Mamluks were alleged to force their Christian captives to do this.[44]
Semen ingestion has had central importance in some cultures around the world. In Baruya culture, there is a secret ritual in which boys give fellatio to young males and drink their semen, to "re-engender themselves before marriage".[35] Among the Sambia people of Papua New Guinea, beginning at age seven all males regularly submit to oral penetration by adolescents in a six-stage initiation process, as the Sambia believe that regular ingestion of an older boy's semen is necessary for a prepubescent youth to achieve sexual maturity and masculinity. By the time he enters mid-puberty he in turn participates in passing his semen on to younger males.[36][37]
Drive him wild: Many guys are heavily conditioned to focus solely on the genitals. "If you expand his capacity to have erotic experiences throughout his entire body, you can open up a whole other world of possibility for him," Michaels says. The thumb is actually a sexy spot for a lot of guys. "To suck on a man's thumb evokes sucking on something else, and can help him connect his mind and body during lovemaking. Start off foreplay by gazing into his eyes as you kiss his hands, and then suck on his thumb as a promise for what's to come," Michaels suggests.
Want to take the action up a notch? Hum while he's inside your mouth. "The vibrations create an added sensation," say Michaels and Johnson. "Holding a vibrator against your cheek can do the same thing." Finally, don't underestimate the power of a well-timed moan on your end. "Making erotic sounds isn't only a turn on for him. It can also get you more excited," explain Michaels and Johnson.
The first thing to know about going down on your lady is that if she’s not relaxed, she’s not going to enjoy it. “One of the sexiest things a guy has ever said to me was ‘get comfortable,’” says Los Angeles-based sex expert and radio host Lora Somoza. “The woman can get really self-conscious over how long it’s going to take them to orgasm, and if she feels like she’s with some guy that isn’t in a rush, that’s incredibly sexy.”
Any sexual activity that involves the introduction of semen into a woman's vagina, such as during sexual intercourse, or even contact of semen with her vulva, may result in a pregnancy.[25] To reduce the risk of unintended pregnancies, some people who engage in penile-vaginal sex may use contraception, such as birth control pills, a condom, diaphragms, spermicides, hormonal contraception or sterilization.[26] The effectiveness of the various contraceptive methods in avoiding pregnancy varies considerably.

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