Research has found that people also engage in sexual activity for reasons associated with self-determination theory. The self-determination theory can be applied to a sexual relationship when the participants have positive feelings associated with the relationship. These participants do not feel guilty or coerced into the partnership.[15] Researchers have proposed the model of self-determined sexual motivation. The purpose of this model is to connect self-determination and sexual motivation.[16] This model has helped to explain how people are sexually motivated when involved in self-determined dating relationships. This model also links the positive outcomes, (satisfying the need for autonomy, competence, and relatedness) gained from sexual motivations.[16]

As many guys get close to orgasm, they typically just want you to keep doing that one thing you're doing without stopping 'til they get there. A little boring, but whatever. However, at the beginning to build up anticipation you can try shaking up your routine. Think alternating longer ice-cream style licks with more traditional full-mouth-over-the-peen sucking.
I’m not really a head giver and but it’s only because I don’t really have any confidence in doing it. Now yesterday I came across your website on facebook and click on it. Once I read the tips that you have posted, I took heed to them. Now be and my bf have been together for 8yrs and when I give him a BJ it’s usually no longer than 5mins. but today I tried some things you’ve posted and he actually admitted to it that it was the best BJ that I have ever done and that it was the first time that I made his eye actually role to the back of his head. When he told me this it made me feel so good and happy inside like I actually knew what I was doing. His actual was were “Damn babe I didn’t know you had it in you like that, it actually felt like I was cumming but I knew I wasn’t.” My thing is what are other things that I can do to keep him like this in this shocking stage? I like to keep him guessing and always want to try new things when giving him a BJ just without him knowing what I’m going to do next. All I really want is to make him cum with just a BJ but he takes longer with those then him being inside of me, what are the key things that I need to do to put him on his a** to the point that he can’t believe what I just did to him. PLEASE HELP ME……BECOME A PRO
Other slang terms for oral sex include going down on (male or female), licking out and muff diving (female), blow job (male), dome (male or female), sucking off (male), playing the skin flute (male recipient), rolling cigars (male recipient), lolly-gagging (gay male-on-male), gaining knowledge (male recipient) and bust down (male). Forced fellatio is often called Egyptian rape or simply Egyptian; this goes back to the time of the Crusades when Mamluks were alleged to force their Christian captives to do this.[44]
Then after a few minutes, return to giving him a blow job. This variation is great for spicing up your normal routine…but it also has the effect of intensifying his orgasm when he eventually peaks and climaxes. Keep in mind that for some guys, if you keep him aroused for a long time without orgasm, he will get blue balls[6] where his balls actually start hurting.

But the good thing is, there's the Men's SOM Rocket Blowjob Machine. Hey, if a living, breathing person can't do it, I'll let the robot do it. I don't want to be picky where my climactic experience is concerned. Like most automatic blowjob toys, this baby is pretty precise, powerful and very reliable. I don't even have to tell it to keep going or whether to swallow or spit it out.


Lines like “it doesn’t mean we’ve had real sex – you’ll still be a virgin”, or “if you don’t want sex then you should at least go down on me”, or “it’s not as risky as having intercourse”, all suggest pressure and coercion. Remember that oral sex should be fun for both of you. If one person is doing it because they feel pressured, it can sour the whole experience.
It may be surprising to hear, but men love foreplay to be drawn out significantly longer more than most women think[3]. So, while giving him a quickie BJ can be super hot for both of you (like say sneaking away for a few minutes at a party), you’ll find that a slow, teasing build up is going to result in your man blowing a bigger load[4]…and a bigger smile on his face. This is probably the most powerful, but also the most overlooked blow job tip you can learn. With this in mind, here are a bunch of great “fellatio foreplay” tips that you can use before giving your man head:
Regardless of if you’re performing fellatio or cunnilingus, it’s supes important to show enthusiasm. Think about it. The best technical skill in the world doesn’t matter if the giver seems bored, uninterested, or even worse, turned off while going down on you. Kovacs recommends vocal enthusiasm, eye contact, and smiling to show your partner how much you enjoy pleasing them. It’s also important to be okay with messiness. “Show your partner that you like having their deliciousness all over your face. That nothing about them doesn't turn you on, and that you delight in their delight.” says Kovacs.
3. You can literally ask the guy what he wants. Before your mouth is, ahem, occupied, use it to ask questions. Does he want you to get your hands involved? Does he want to lie down on his back or stand up? Does he prefer lots of noises, or nah? Asking questions and getting answers is not only a fun way to get ~in the mood~, but it can help put any concerns or anxieties you have at ease. 

^ Jump up to: a b c d See here and pages 47-49 for views on what constitutes virginity loss and therefore sexual intercourse or other sexual activity; source discusses how gay and lesbian individuals define virginity loss, and how the majority of researchers and heterosexuals define virginity loss/"technical virginity" by whether or not a person has engaged in penile-vaginal sex. Laura M. Carpenter (2005). Virginity Lost: An Intimate Portrait of First Sexual Experiences. NYU Press. pp. 295 pages. ISBN 0-8147-1652-0. Retrieved October 9, 2011.

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