It's easy for any couple to get in a sexual rut. "What happens in a relationship is everything you like and your partner like stays on the menu, but anything either of you doesn't like, isn't tried," explains Fleming. "So make a list of yes/no/not for now and over time as you develop the intimacy, the safety, and the connection, then you can be like 'OK, why don't we go back and visit role play or go back and revisit anal play.'" It's that simple! Think of all the fun you'll have writing the list out together. (And how much easier your sex life will be when the two of you aren't scrambling to think of new sex positions in the heat of the moment.)
Research on sexual frequency has also been conducted solely on female adolescents who engage in sexual activity. Female adolescents tended to engage in more sexual activity due to positive mood. In female teenagers, engaging in sexual activity was directly positively correlated with being older, greater sexual activity in the previous week or prior day, and more positive mood the previous day or the same day as the sexual activity occurred.[22] Decreased sexual activity was associated with prior or current day negative mood or menstruating.[22]
Hey Sean, so I just met this guy about a couple weeks ago. But instead of taking things slow like we had planned, we can’t help already wanting to take the next step in our relationship. I’ve never had sex before, and I want to impress him and keep him interested in me, having it be my first time. Can you please help give me some tips on my first time of having sex to keep him interested in me. Please!
Don’t stress if he doesn’t maintain a full-on erection throughout. Berkeley, California-based sexologist Amy Marsh says it’s totally normal for his erection to ebb and flow, and has nothing to do with how much fun he’s having. But it also doesn’t hurt to ask him to signal when he’s really enjoying himself. Says Marsh, “Being honest about how it feels will boost enjoyment on both sides.”
Any sexual activity that involves the introduction of semen into a woman's vagina, such as during sexual intercourse, or even contact of semen with her vulva, may result in a pregnancy.[25] To reduce the risk of unintended pregnancies, some people who engage in penile-vaginal sex may use contraception, such as birth control pills, a condom, diaphragms, spermicides, hormonal contraception or sterilization.[26] The effectiveness of the various contraceptive methods in avoiding pregnancy varies considerably.

Flying foxes have been observed engaging in oral sex.[59] Indian flying fox males will lick a female's vulva both before and after copulation, with the length of pre-copulation cunnilingus positively correlated with length of copulation.[60] The fruit bat Cynopterus sphinx, has been observed to engage in fellatio during mating. Pairs spend more time copulating if the female licks the male than if she does not.[58][61] Male Livingstone's fruit bats have been observed engaging in homosexual fellatio, although it is unknown if this is an example of sexual behavior or social grooming.[62] Bonin flying foxes also engage in homosexual fellatio, but the behavior has been observed independently of social grooming.[59]
My husband nn I are freaks we’re newly weds so figures right!! Nn I’m pretty good at head :)) but tonight I totally kissed it like told nn after he was like ” you never did it like that before !!! You never kissed it that was amazing!” Lol so it’s amazing what tiny things can really make a mind blowing bj!!! Thank you!!! Keep up the good tips! Lol with this blog I’ll go from pretty good to awesome in no time!! :))))))
Despite what you may have seen in porn, you shouldn’t feel like you have to immediately jam his entire penis down your throat (or even at all). "Gagging takes you both out of the moment, and you and he will enjoy oral sex much more when you're both having fun," says Marsh. You can achieve a similar sensation by gripping the base of his shaft, and moving your hand and mouth in a rhythmic motion. (Flavored lube will make this a lot easier.)
I am 59 and my boyfriend is 63 (believe it or not the sex gets so much better as you mature, I think because we are more confident within ourselves) I love giving him BJs and for the first time ever enjoy swallowing him. I usually give him a BJ and before he cumms I climb on top of him. Unfortunately he reaches a climax very quickly with a BJ what can I do to kind of slow him down.
A 1999 survey of students indicated that approximately 40% of ninth graders across the United States report having had sexual intercourse. This figure rises with each grade. Males are more sexually active than females at each of the grade levels surveyed. Sexual activity of young adolescents differs in ethnicity as well. A higher percent of African American and Hispanic adolescents are sexually active than White adolescents.[21]
Try this: Give him a lipstick blowjob — AKA where you brush your closed but relaxed lips against the head of his penis, like you’re applying lipstick. Hold his shaft with your fingers, but not in a fist (avoid holding his penis like a microphone, but do approach it with the same blind confidence of a mediocre stand up act). Keesling suggests varying the sensations by opening your mouth a bit and rubbing his head between them.
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"Human sexuality and gender relations are closely interrelated and together affect the ability of men and women to achieve and maintain sexual health and manage their reproductive lives. Equal relationships between men and women in matters of sexual relations and reproduction, including full respect for the physical integrity of the human body, require mutual respect and willingness to accept responsibility for the consequences of sexual behaviour. Responsible sexual behaviour, sensitivity and equity in gender relations, particularly when instilled during the formative years, enhance and promote respectful and harmonious partnerships between men and women."
It has been shown that sexual activity plays a large part in the interaction of social species. Joan Roughgarden, in her book Diversity, Gender, and Sexuality in Nature and People, postulates that this applies equally to humans as it does to other social species. She explores the purpose of sexual activity and demonstrates that there are many functions facilitated by such activity including pair bonding, group bonding, dispute resolution and reproduction.[14]
I repeat, DO NOT buy this ridiculous piece of shit ebook. If you’re looking for guidance on how to give a blowjob, I suggest trusting someone with an actual face (and who isn’t a misogynist). For example, Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Oral Sex: Fellatio DVD provides both tips and on-screen demonstration, and Violet Blue’s book, The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio, is $17. WHAT A STEAL!
3. You can literally ask the guy what he wants. Before your mouth is, ahem, occupied, use it to ask questions. Does he want you to get your hands involved? Does he want to lie down on his back or stand up? Does he prefer lots of noises, or nah? Asking questions and getting answers is not only a fun way to get ~in the mood~, but it can help put any concerns or anxieties you have at ease.

While commonly believed that lesbian sexual practices involve cunnilingus for all women who have sex with women (WSW), some have an aversion to cunnilingus due to not liking the experience or psychological or social factors, such as finding it unclean.[39][40][41][42] Other WSW believe that it is a necessity or largely defines lesbian sexual activity.[41][42] Lesbian couples are more likely to consider a woman's dislike of cunnilingus as a problem than heterosexual couples are, and it is common for them to seek therapy to overcome inhibitions regarding it.[41]


Try this: Britton suggests having him lie on his back and slowly licking from his areola inwards, like an ice cream cone, but never touching tongue to nip. Get closer and closer until you flick his nipple with your tongue and then gently bite it. Britton says, “Men love when you slowly build up the pressure like that, so don’t be afraid to nip him harder than you would like to be,” If you wanna be really extra, you can suck on an ice cube beforehand for more sensation.


Work His Balls – Another great hand job technique you can incorporate into your blow job is working his testicles or balls. There are so many different things that you can do to his testicles with your hands while giving him a blow job, from fondling to caressing to tickling to massaging them. Try experimenting to see what your man enjoys the most.
In situations like this, it can be almost impossible to avoid using your teeth as you take him into your mouth. The first thing you can do is to wrap your lips around your teeth so that your lips act as a soft barrier. The second thing is focusing on techniques where you don’t take him into your mouth like these ones or by giving him a handjob (learn everything you need to know about handjobs in this guide).
Oral Herpes: You can transmit oral herpes to your partner's genital. In fact, HSV-1 (the type that causes cold sores) may be even more contagious than HSV-2 (the type associated with genital herpes). In general, performing oral sex on a woman is safer than performing oral sex on a man. However, herpes transmission in both directions is a real risk.

Try this: reverse finger job. Make two tight rings around his penis with your thumb and index finger (like you’re doing the okay hand symbol 👌), stacking them one on top of the other, in the middle of his shaft. Twist the rings in opposite directions moving from middle to the top and base of his shaft at the same time. Cox calls this a “torrid twist” the the typical one-handed uppy-downey handy. Remember to use lube, though!


Another risk of oral sex is strain on your relationship, particularly if one of you doesn’t enjoy it or has concerns about it. One partner may have anxiety about their oral sexual performance or what their partner will think of them during oral sex. Or oral sex may make one partner feel under the other partner’s control. These are all important issues to resolve before introducing oral sex into your relationship.  

I’m the same way. If he truly enjoys and wants a blow job then you need to be totally enthusiastic. In a way it’s not just the sensation it is part visual and you have to look and sound the part if you will. You have to be sexy. Put on eye make up. And say sexy sensual things to him. Bigger yet use the 69 position to show your beautiful privates to his eyes. I even love seeing sexy underwear myself. Basically you have to stimulate all his senses. But above all he needs to believe you really enjoy having him in your mouth. Think of it akin to overloading his senses to make him believe he is inside your other private part.
If you're bent over him or looking up at him, that means your cleavage is also on display. You already know he loves them, so during oral try taking his penis in one hand and tracing it over and between your breasts. "It's a different sensation that may be fun to try," says Blaylock-Johnson. "Of course, depending on how large your breasts are, it may be fun to incorporate them." We'll bet any size breast is A-OK for your partner, though.
Slip Inside – A less advanced fellatio technique that is almost as effective at providing him with intense delight and stimulation as deep throating him is using the inside of your mouth. By taking him into your mouth and pressing/rubbing the tip of his penis against the inside of your cheek and tongue, you have another tool for your blow job arsenal.
Cultural views on oral sex range from aversion to high regard.[1] It, especially fellatio,[34] has been considered taboo, or at least discouraged, in many cultures and parts of the world.[1] Laws of some jurisdictions regard oral sex as penetrative sex for the purposes of sexual offenses with regard to the act, but most countries do not have laws which ban the practice itself, in contrast to anal sex or extramarital sex.

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