I am 59 and my boyfriend is 63 (believe it or not the sex gets so much better as you mature, I think because we are more confident within ourselves) I love giving him BJs and for the first time ever enjoy swallowing him. I usually give him a BJ and before he cumms I climb on top of him. Unfortunately he reaches a climax very quickly with a BJ what can I do to kind of slow him down.
Thank you for your interest oral sex etiquette. While it's true that women actively pursue a good time, performing oral sex is not the act of martyrdom some would have you believe. You see, a lot of women have an innate attraction to the penis, or at least think it's "neat." Hence, the creation of sex toys, folks. So here's your guide to making the experience enjoyable for all parties involved. It's certainly possible, if you study up.

Clinical research has tentatively linked fellatio with immune modulation,[30] indicating it may reduce the chance of complications during pregnancy. The potentially fatal complication pre-eclampsia was observed to occur less in women who regularly engaged in fellatio, with those who also ingested their partner's semen being at the least risk.[31] The results were consistent with the fact that semen contains TGF-β1, the exchange of which between partners having a causal reduction in risk of pre-eclampsia caused by an immunological reaction. It is worth noting that fellatio is not the only viable mechanism for the transmission of TGF-β1.[30][32][33]


Once you’ve located the clitoris, you don’t want to immediately rush in. “Tease her with your mouth and hands to build anticipation and arousal. Kiss her softly around the clitoris, gently nibble on her inner thighs and take your time slowly pulling off her underwear,” says Morse. You can also heighten arousal by touching and kissing her through the fabric. Once you're dealing with bare skin, you can start with slow tongue motions. Moving slowly, lick up and down, with gentle strokes and a flat tongue. 
Bad news first: Blow jobs are always a little bit intimidating. Thrusting your face at a penis is hard sometimes — pun intended, obviously. But it's especially nerve-wracking the very first time you do it. Just like you were probably a little nervous the first time you tried some wild new food, it can be scary to put something brand new in your mouth.

You know that beautiful agony you feel as you build up to cumming at a snails pace, and then your man backs off a bit…then he again starts building you up even closer to orgasm? You wish it would come faster, but the entire slow, drawn out process is still incredibly enjoyable. More importantly, all that build up makes your orgasm far more intensely when you do eventually climax.


Option 1 is that you leave and do nothing to improve your sex life. You may think blowjobs are not that important for a relationship's success... and that's OK, but pray a Blowjob Queen never puts her lips around your man's penis. Or your relationship may fall apart like a house of cards in a thunderstorm. I'm a guy and I know how men think – we are sexual, hedonistic creatures and we will always choose better sex if we have the option. Why risk it or worry about it when you can have a carefree, loving relationship?

A person who performs fellatio on someone may be referred to as the giving partner, and the other person as the receiving partner. Fellatio can be sexually arousing for participants, and males commonly experience orgasm and ejaculation of semen during the act.[3][4] People may use fellatio as foreplay to sexually arouse their sex partner before vaginal or anal intercourse, or other sexual activity,[3][8] or they may use it as an erotic and physically intimate act in its own right.[3][4] Though a person who receives fellatio is male, his sex partner may be of either sex. When the penis is thrust into someone's mouth, it may be called irrumatio, though the term is rarely used.[16]


Oral sex is not necessarily an effective method of preventing sexually transmitted infections (STIs), although some forms of STIs are believed to be less commonly spread in this way, and oral sex has been recommended as a form of safe sex.[18][19][20] In the United States, no barrier methods for use during oral sex have been evaluated as effective by the Food and Drug Administration.[21] However, a barrier protection like a condom for fellatio or dental dam for cunnilingus can offer some protection from contact when practicing oral sex.[13]
Fellatio (also known as fellation,[1] and in slang as blowjob, BJ, giving head, or sucking off[2]) is an oral sex act involving the use of the mouth or throat, which is usually performed by a person on the penis of another person. If performed on oneself, the act is called autofellatio.[3][4] Oral stimulation of the scrotum may also be termed fellatio,[5][6] or colloquially as teabagging.[7]
The Dip Under the Ankles: There is a mythical place in between the heel and the popliteal fossa (that’s the back of the knee) that is connected to a man’s sex organs; this ladies and gentlemen, is the dip under the ankles. As you’re cowgirl on top (or cowboy on top) and the guy is reaching a climax, reach for these pressure points and give them a rub. BOOM!
In some cultures, sexual activity is considered acceptable only within marriage, while premarital and extramarital sex are taboo. Some sexual activities are illegal either universally or in some countries or subnational jurisdictions, while some are considered contrary to the norms of certain societies or cultures. Two examples that are criminal offences in most jurisdictions are sexual assault and sexual activity with a person below the local age of consent.
It's no secret that women have some very specific pleasure points on their body, and hopefully, your guy is no stranger to the clitoris and G-spot. Yet you might be surprised to know that the male body also has particular erogenous zones, or trigger spots, that—when stimulated—will make his orgasms more powerful and your sex life better than ever. "Orgasm is the release of sexual tension, and tension is created through gradually increasing and varying touch and pressure on his passion points," says Claire Cavanah, cofounder of Babeland, a national chain of women-owned sex shops, and coauthor of Moregasm: Babeland's Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex and Sex Toys 101. "Licking and biting with your mouth, then adding in heat or cold sensations by sucking on an ice cube or drinking hot tea will drive him wild." To find out where to touch him to make his toes curl, click through our hot list. (Related: The 4 Simple Things You Need for Amazing Sex) 
I repeat, DO NOT buy this ridiculous piece of shit ebook. If you’re looking for guidance on how to give a blowjob, I suggest trusting someone with an actual face (and who isn’t a misogynist). For example, Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Oral Sex: Fellatio DVD provides both tips and on-screen demonstration, and Violet Blue’s book, The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio, is $17. WHAT A STEAL!
Never ever underestimate the power of a see-through teddy to get your guy standing tall. "Anything that makes a woman feel good in her body and sexually confident is very sexy," says sex and relationship therapist Megan Fleming, Ph.D. And nothing is sexier to your guy than confidence. I can personally attest to this fact; my man cannot resist this sexy little (and I emphasize little) red nightie that a nonchalantly stroll around in on occasion. But it's not even just wearing the lingerie. It's the tease, the sexy text you send him letting him know you bought some lingerie but he has to wait until the evening. Take your time and take charge, because the ball is in your court and your man wants it all.
Research has found that people also engage in sexual activity for reasons associated with self-determination theory. The self-determination theory can be applied to a sexual relationship when the participants have positive feelings associated with the relationship. These participants do not feel guilty or coerced into the partnership.[15] Researchers have proposed the model of self-determined sexual motivation. The purpose of this model is to connect self-determination and sexual motivation.[16] This model has helped to explain how people are sexually motivated when involved in self-determined dating relationships. This model also links the positive outcomes, (satisfying the need for autonomy, competence, and relatedness) gained from sexual motivations.[16]
Want to take the action up a notch? Hum while he's inside your mouth. "The vibrations create an added sensation," say Michaels and Johnson. "Holding a vibrator against your cheek can do the same thing." Finally, don't underestimate the power of a well-timed moan on your end. "Making erotic sounds isn't only a turn on for him. It can also get you more excited," explain Michaels and Johnson.
Choose between 2 thrusting speeds that are best described as ‘pumping frenzy' or ‘insanity'. To give you a concrete idea of how fast the blowjob robot can go adjustment can range from 90 thrusts per minute to 180 thrusts per minute. Pretty tough to get your girl going that fast - especially without complaining! Even if your life depended on you reaching orgasm, it would be hard for you to top those speeds. And, since it is plugged in directly to a wall outlet, you don't have to worry about it losing juice just as you're about to blow yours. Just lube up, slip your tip in and let the blowjob simulator do its work.
Experts say the risk of contracting HIV/AIDS from an HIV-positive person during oral sex is extremely low, but it’s difficult to know exactly because people often participate in vaginal or anal sex at the same time as oral sex (which, when unprotected, both offer a much greater risk than oral sex). The form of oral sex posing the greatest risk is mouth-to-penis oral sex.

As many guys get close to orgasm, they typically just want you to keep doing that one thing you're doing without stopping 'til they get there. A little boring, but whatever. However, at the beginning to build up anticipation you can try shaking up your routine. Think alternating longer ice-cream style licks with more traditional full-mouth-over-the-peen sucking.
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Swinging, on the other hand, involves singles or partners in a committed relationship engaging in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity.[49] The increasing popularity of swinging is regarded by some as arising from the upsurge in sexual activity during the sexual revolution of the 1960s. Swinging sexual activity can take place in a sex club, also known as a swinger club (not to be confused with a strip club).[50]
Tell her you found a video of a blowjob that reminded u of her and how she gives a blowjob. When she watches it, it'll imprint on her and make her relate. Next time she gives u the BJ she'd unconsciously remember the video and without noticing will mimic Mia. U can help this process by finding something similar between both blowjobs and affirming your claim. This way she won't sense bullshit. Ladies this works for u too btw
Another study in The New England Journal of Medicine suggests a correlation between oral sex and throat cancer. It is believed that this is due to the transmission of HPV, a virus that has been implicated in the majority of cervical cancers and which has been detected in throat cancer tissue in numerous studies. The study concludes that people who had one to five oral sex partners in their lifetime had approximately a doubled risk of throat cancer compared with those who never engaged in this activity and those with more than five oral sex partners had a 250 percent increased risk.[29][30]
You may be worried about what your husband thinks of your post-breast-feeding boobs, your C-section scar, or that at some point, he'll stop being attracted to you because you look a little — OK, a lot—different than you did on your wedding day. But men rarely notice your self-perceived flaws — they only become aware of them if you're preoccupied with them or go out of your way to cover up. "It's true, men are very visual," says relationship expert Bernardo Mendez. "But it's really about wanting to be able to actually see you move, preferably with no clothes on. We're validated by how happy we can make you in bed, and that's what we're focused on—not on how much you may have changed." So allow him see you. All of you.

My fiance has never gotten off from just a blow job alone. He always has to help me out while I’m performing fellatio, and he normally needs sex to be somewhat fast and hard to finish. I’ve been told in previous relationships that I’m very good at what I do, but I want to do something for him that he’s never had. Any tips would be greatly appreciated. I utilize all of the aforementioned tips you’ve posted. Thanks!
Sleeves are easy to clean - Take it from me - there are many toys on the market that are basically giant breeding grounds for bacteria (and odours). Think about the sticky mess you'll have left after a feel-good session… If you can't slip that sleeve out for cleaning, you've got a real disaster on your hands (pun intended). These sleeves come out for easy cleaning with a toy cleaner or warm water and soap.
It has been shown that sexual activity plays a large part in the interaction of social species. Joan Roughgarden, in her book Diversity, Gender, and Sexuality in Nature and People, postulates that this applies equally to humans as it does to other social species. She explores the purpose of sexual activity and demonstrates that there are many functions facilitated by such activity including pair bonding, group bonding, dispute resolution and reproduction.[14]
Now don't get me wrong I love giving head I always have but it's very discouraging when you can't make your own husband cum! He is in the military and left for training for a couple weeks and I wanted to do something nice for him when he got home so I bought your book. My attitude has been shit for the past couple years because I've been so frustrated and I really worked on that and I think I did a pretty damn good job! When he came home I tried out your advice and not only did he cum he said it was the best head he's ever gotten and he said his orgasm was deeper and more intense than its ever been! I also had a lot of fun and enjoyed making him feel so good. So just wanted to say thanks, it really helped!
^ Jump up to: a b c d See here and pages 47-49 for views on what constitutes virginity loss and therefore sexual intercourse or other sexual activity; source discusses how gay and lesbian individuals define virginity loss, and how the majority of researchers and heterosexuals define virginity loss/"technical virginity" by whether or not a person has engaged in penile-vaginal sex. Laura M. Carpenter (2005). Virginity Lost: An Intimate Portrait of First Sexual Experiences. NYU Press. pp. 295 pages. ISBN 0-8147-1652-0. Retrieved October 9, 2011.
Some women — and men — might find this a tad embarrassing, but hear us out. "Watching a confident woman fully connect to her sexuality is a huge turn-on for us," says Mendez. It's like giving your husband a private peep show, and being able to see the pleasure on your face and get a better understanding of exactly how you like to be touched is both a turn-on and a valuable lesson.
Secondly, Jack is an awful writer. Like…truly horrific. There are a lot of errors in this book. Also, something that annoys the fuck out of me…there are several instances of him saying “I probably should have mentioned this before…” or something along those lines. Dude…you wrote a book. You can edit that shit before you publish it. If you “probably should have mentioned this before”, go back and fucking mention it. You have that power.
Designed to easily fit between your legs, the machine is compact and small, yet very powerful. Just watching the video demonstration of the Men's SOM Rocket Blowjob Machine would make you shake your head in disbelief, but of course, in a really good way. No one, (and I mean no one) would be able to give you a blowjob as good or as fast as this pleasure device does.
I’m the same way. If he truly enjoys and wants a blow job then you need to be totally enthusiastic. In a way it’s not just the sensation it is part visual and you have to look and sound the part if you will. You have to be sexy. Put on eye make up. And say sexy sensual things to him. Bigger yet use the 69 position to show your beautiful privates to his eyes. I even love seeing sexy underwear myself. Basically you have to stimulate all his senses. But above all he needs to believe you really enjoy having him in your mouth. Think of it akin to overloading his senses to make him believe he is inside your other private part.
Other slang terms for oral sex include going down on (male or female), licking out and muff diving (female), blow job (male), dome (male or female), sucking off (male), playing the skin flute (male recipient), rolling cigars (male recipient), lolly-gagging (gay male-on-male), gaining knowledge (male recipient) and bust down (male). Forced fellatio is often called Egyptian rape or simply Egyptian; this goes back to the time of the Crusades when Mamluks were alleged to force their Christian captives to do this.[44]
While male nipples are basically the same as human nipples, they might even be more sensitive than yours since guys aren’t used to having them touched so often. "For a lot of men, their nipples are uncharted territory — an erogenous zone they haven't experimented with," explains Patti Britton, PhD, a Los Angeles-based clinical sexologist and author of the The Complete Idiot's Guide to Sensual Massage. Touch them, however, and you'll send shock waves of pleasure radiating through him, she adds.

Unlike the usual "power neutral" relationships and play styles commonly followed by couples, activities and relationships within a BDSM context are often characterized by the participants' taking on complementary, but unequal roles; thus, the idea of informed consent of both the partners becomes essential. Participants who exert sexual dominance over their partners are known as dominants or tops, while participants who take the passive, receiving, or obedient role are known as submissives or bottoms.
Research has found that people also engage in sexual activity for reasons associated with self-determination theory. The self-determination theory can be applied to a sexual relationship when the participants have positive feelings associated with the relationship. These participants do not feel guilty or coerced into the partnership.[15] Researchers have proposed the model of self-determined sexual motivation. The purpose of this model is to connect self-determination and sexual motivation.[16] This model has helped to explain how people are sexually motivated when involved in self-determined dating relationships. This model also links the positive outcomes, (satisfying the need for autonomy, competence, and relatedness) gained from sexual motivations.[16]
As I mentioned in this section in Chapter 2 of the Blow Job Guide, the tip of your man’s penis (the glans) is by far the most sensitive spot on his penis, particularly the underside. The female equivalent is the clitoris. So focusing your attention on the tip of his penis is going to work well to push him over the edge in the most intense and pleasurable way possible.
Unlike other pumps, the Auto Vac Power Pump is completely hands-free. Simply plug it in, slip your wanker in and push a button to turn it on. A powerful motor then creates a vacuum inside the clear chamber, forcing you to quickly stand erect and also expand your length and girth. It doesn't take much to make you swell with size and power when you use the Auto Vac Power Pump.
Most countries do not have laws that ban the practice of oral sex, though some cultures may consider it taboo.[3] People may also have negative feelings or sexual inhibitions about giving or receiving oral sex; they may refuse to engage in it of their own volition.[3] Commonly, people do not regard forms of oral sex as affecting the virginity of either partner, though opinions on the matter vary.[12][13][14][15]
Option 1 is that you leave and do nothing to improve your sex life. You may think blowjobs are not that important for a relationship's success... and that's OK, but pray a Blowjob Queen never puts her lips around your man's penis. Or your relationship may fall apart like a house of cards in a thunderstorm. I'm a guy and I know how men think – we are sexual, hedonistic creatures and we will always choose better sex if we have the option. Why risk it or worry about it when you can have a carefree, loving relationship?
When you feel like she’s getting close to her climax, continue what you’re doing! But—and here’s the disclaimer—she may not always come. It’s not a reflection of your ability. “Don’t be so ‘goal-oriented’ and caught up in your own ego,” Somoza advises. “Your only goal should be to make her feel good. One of the sexiest things about a man is when he acts like being between a woman’s legs is his favorite place in the whole wide world. A lot of what makes great oral sex is the attitude you show your partner.”

3. You can literally ask the guy what he wants. Before your mouth is, ahem, occupied, use it to ask questions. Does he want you to get your hands involved? Does he want to lie down on his back or stand up? Does he prefer lots of noises, or nah? Asking questions and getting answers is not only a fun way to get ~in the mood~, but it can help put any concerns or anxieties you have at ease.
This baby promises results in just 60 days, provided of course that you follow the correct exercise regimen. Unlike getting an erection, freezing that erection and turning it into your next base line takes some effort. The good news is, with the X40 Water Penis Pump, work is basically synonymous to a solo erotica session... although it doesn't always turn out to be shooting contest if you catch my drift.

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