Sometimes, as guys, you may take it for granted that you are more into oral sex than your partner. That’s actually not true: Women really love oral sex too, and if we are asking for it, we should be giving the same and more back. Reciprocity is an incredibly important part of sexual satisfaction, and women can be satisfied tremendously via oral sex: it just takes a bit more effort and consideration on your part to make it the best experience it can be for her. 
It doesn’t matter how memorable your oral skills may be — if your partner is distracted or stuck in her head, she is not going to be able to enjoy herself. “Oral sex offers an interesting paradox; many women love it yet it can find it so challenging to relax into the moment. This is why so many women tense up when their partner goes down," says Dr. Emily Morse, host of the Sex With Emily podcast and author of Hot Sex: Over 200 Things You Can Try Tonight. "The best thing you can say to a woman is, ‘Relax, I’ve got all night.' " Since women can worry about whether you want to be down there and may be self-conscious about how long it takes them to get off, a quick reassurance will go a long way.
I have no idea really how to be sexy. I have no imagination when it comes to sex. My husband is a freak and wants to do new things. Things I don’t really care to do but I do them because he likes it. Tried the three some thing. Hated it refuse to do it again. Just the thought of him with another woman irritates me. I’m simple. My wants and desires are simple. I just want to be wanted. Is there something wrong with me if I have no desire to not explore new things ? How do I get out of that feeling? He expects me to come up with new things and I truly don’t know what else to do. Right now we are exploring dildos and strap ons. This also made me read about blow jobs. I’m not very good at it and he’s made that clear. I gag if it goes too deep I gag if there’s just a hint of cum. He asks me if I like certain things I say yes because I know it turns him on when I really don’t like it. Any advice for the non sexual person?

My wife has always been a giver since we met. She was the first one to ever do that for me and it was the best feeling any woman ever gave me. She is always practicing her craft to get better and man there ain’t no better intimacy than a woman who loves her man and uses her oral skills to make it the best she can for her man. And because she is so good and loving at it I have no interest in having an affair, it’s the most cruel and humiliating thing I could ever do to her. I love my wife for a lot of other reasons besides good sex, and I could not hurt her like this. I trust her and she trusts me, and I think that trust is partly what makes for great intimacy, and the ability to completely let go of ones self while under the control of another. And an orgasm comes while under the control of another person. So as long as she is in control of giving me mind blowing orgasms, I just have to let go and let her control my orgasm, and bring it to an explosive ending. And for that, I applaud her and thank her for it. Babe I love you.
I would say that I've tried most of the male sex toys on the market. And the Autoblow 2+ threw me for a loop at the beginning. The entrance is sexy, but I'll be honest when I tell you that it is one of the bulkier toys I've used. The case is fairly large, which is why I recommend the easy-grip handle. It just makes moving it around that much easier. But let me tell ya - once I lubed up and slipped inside, I never thought about the size of the case again. I was so pleased with my first experience that I don't think I lasted more than 30 seconds? It took me a while to get used to just how pleasurable it was - but now I can play around with it and make it last as long as I please. The good thing? I also last way longer in bed when I get the real deal too.
But now the good news! Other people have literally already been there, done that, and can help you get over your own pre-BJ woes. Whether you're preparing for your first for thousandth blow job, there are always new lessons to be learned. Especially when it comes to dick-in-mouth. Here are 21 pieces of sage guidance that all grown women wish they'd known before giving their first blow jobs.
With this vibrating knob gobbler, you only need to lube up the head of your cock, stick it in the masturbator and sit back like a king being royally cock-sucked by a number of harems who switches you from one puckered mouth to the next. The sucking action doesn't stop until YOU let up. The Xtreme Head Exciter does all the stroking, thrusting and licking for you. Kama Sutra stance has nothing on this pleasure device when you want your head to be given undivided attention.
Sexual dysfunction is the inability to react emotionally or physically to sexual stimulation in a way projected of the average healthy person; it can affect different stages in the sexual response cycles, which are desire, excitement and orgasm.[8] In the media, sexual dysfunction is often associated with men, but in actuality, it is more commonly observed in females (43 percent) than males (31 percent).[9]
Most countries do not have laws that ban the practice of oral sex, though some cultures may consider it taboo.[3] People may also have negative feelings or sexual inhibitions about giving or receiving oral sex; they may refuse to engage in it of their own volition.[3] Commonly, people do not regard forms of oral sex as affecting the virginity of either partner, though opinions on the matter vary.[12][13][14][15]
Homosexuality is the romantic or sexual attraction to the same sex. People with a homosexual orientation can express their sexuality in a variety of ways, and may or may not express it in their behaviors.[36] Research indicates that many gay men and lesbians want, and succeed in having, committed and durable relationships. For example, survey data indicate that between 40% and 60% of gay men and between 45% and 80% of lesbians are currently involved in a romantic relationship.[37]

Another risk of oral sex is strain on your relationship, particularly if one of you doesn’t enjoy it or has concerns about it. One partner may have anxiety about their oral sexual performance or what their partner will think of them during oral sex. Or oral sex may make one partner feel under the other partner’s control. These are all important issues to resolve before introducing oral sex into your relationship. 


According to the completed research associated with this model, it was found that people of both sexes who engaged in sexual activity for self-determined motivation had more positive psychological well-being.[16] While engaging in sexual activity for self-determined reasons, the participants also had a higher need for fulfillment. When this need was satisfied, they felt better about themselves. This was correlated with greater closeness to their partner and higher overall satisfaction in their relationship.[16] Though both sexes engaged in sexual activity for self-determined reasons, there were some differences found between males and females. It was concluded that females had more motivation than males to engage in sexual activity for self-determined reasons.[16] Females also had higher satisfaction and relationship quality than males did from the sexual activity.[16] Overall, research concluded that psychological well-being, sexual motivation, and sexual satisfaction were all positively correlated when dating couples partook in sexual activity for self-determined reasons.[16]
The prostate might be new territory for you, or it might be new territory for you and your guy, or maybe he's been too shy to ask for a finger up his butt, but don't leave the prostate unattended. It's time to show your guy how much pleasure he is missing in his derrière. "A lot of the penis is internal; it almost looks like a boomerang," explains Fleming. With back-door play, "you're massaging these internal nerve endings and that can feel really good." Start by adding a finger when you're both highly aroused. Soon enough, he'll be wondering why he wasn't already experimenting with prostate play. "It's definitely worth testing those waters," says Fleming.
It feels like a dream. Okay, that's vague, I know. How about - it feels like a blowjob. A blowjob that you can get whenever you feel like it. You can make it last as long as possible, or get off in a minute flat. The choice is yours. With the smooth, silky interior of the sleeve, mixed with a bit of lube, it's difficult to tell it apart from the real deal. And the beads - they move up and down the shaft with such realism, it's incredible. But until you try it, you won't know just how realistic it really is, no matter how long I jabber on for.
Plant your feet on the mattress, allowing you to push off your feet and move your hips. This can be your first step in becoming a more active receiver during oral sex. By shifting your hips a little up and down, or to the right and left, you can help your lover's tongue find your most sensitive spots. Once you gain more confidence and are ready to go wild, try moving your hips in circles to maximize your pleasure.
The coup de gras would be to qickly alternate with regular penetration. Each time bringing him closer and closer to climate when inside of you eventually when he is on the cusp of exploding inside of you quickly take him in your mouth and and keep him in your mouth (think of it as practicing or getting him acustomed to being able to climax in your mouth). Or even maybe surprising him when he is behind you quickly turn around and suck him. Even after regular sex. Don’t stop after he finishes. Women get multiple orgasms at least I wish all girls get to enjoy that. Why shouldn’t a guy get a bonus after climaxing. Note as someone else stated gagging is not a turn on. You need to show that you enjoy cum in your mouth.
2. And speaking of that: It probably feels nothing at all like you think it does. Unless you also have a penis and have received a blow job before, the best you can do is merely speculate what getting one feels like. All you need to know is that men tend to describe them favorably, or as one guy eloquently puts it: "If sex is putting your penis in a wet, unplugged vacuum ... a blow job is plugging that vacuum in." So put all those worries that it doesn't feel good out of your mind. Assuredly, he's into it.
A blow job is a beautiful and extremely arousing spectacle when you see it done just right. And that is precisely why here at Tube8.com you'll see only the sexiest porn stars and models as they deepthroat, lick and suck the biggest dicks in the business till they bust a load on their pretty faces. But that doesn't mean that you'll only find professional XXX models giving BJs here, sometimes the most unassuming amateur girls are the most passionate when sucking cock. Ebony or white, Asian or Latina, if she loves to suck dick, you'll find her blowjob porn videos at Tube8. Ladies want hard peckers to suck as bad as men want tight pussies to eat. These sexy models go crazy at the thought of a fat schlong penetrating their lips and throat fucking them. Their panties get wet just thinking about jacking a guy off while they lick his balls and eat his asshole. Everybody has a finite number of things that can be done to them during sex. But if you're limited to oral sex, that's no problem, it's the greatest show on earth. Chicks just want to express their unbound lust for man meat with their lips, tongues and throats. Watch as these horny girls practically fight over knobs they want to slob. Even the babes who aren't into cum swallowing still want to get the dick hard and wet with saliva before they ride it.
10. Your hands can pinch hit when your mouth needs some time on the bench. The average penis is 5.17 inches (when hard). I haven't measured the inside of my mouth, but I am pretty damn sure there aren't 5.17 inches of space between my lips and the back of my throat. And no way do I recommend going for broke and shoving a penis down your esophagus. Let your hands help. Put the tip in your mouth and your hands around the base, and voilà. This is within the acceptable rules of play.
Another study in The New England Journal of Medicine suggests a correlation between oral sex and throat cancer. It is believed that this is due to the transmission of HPV, a virus that has been implicated in the majority of cervical cancers and which has been detected in throat cancer tissue in numerous studies. The study concludes that people who had one to five oral sex partners in their lifetime had approximately a doubled risk of throat cancer compared with those who never engaged in this activity and those with more than five oral sex partners had a 250 percent increased risk.[29][30] 

21. It doesn't make you a slut to enjoy giving BJs and it doesn't make you a prude to hate giving BJs. This one sex act is way overblown (LOL, sorry, I'm sorry) but really it's just one thing on an endless menu of sex things you can do to a person. No one decent will cut things off with you if you don't like giving BJs, and I swear if anyone ever slut-shames you for liking BJs, direct them to me immediately because there's a conversation we need to have. You like what you like and hate what you hate, and it's all fine and good.
Unlike other pumps, the Auto Vac Power Pump is completely hands-free. Simply plug it in, slip your wanker in and push a button to turn it on. A powerful motor then creates a vacuum inside the clear chamber, forcing you to quickly stand erect and also expand your length and girth. It doesn't take much to make you swell with size and power when you use the Auto Vac Power Pump.
The show was described as depicting backstage burlesque and one reviewer called it the "queerest show you've ever seen" and as having "all the Queens" in it. Another review noted the presence of "Harlem bacchanales". A couple of favorable reviews found it entertaining, but most reviewers gave it rather scornful criticism including description of it as "filth" and "foul exhibitionism".[2]
Many women are so anxious at the thought of giving head to their man, that they just get straight to it with little or no build up and with no teasing. It’s like they are focused only on making him ejaculate and getting that sperm out of him. Gently teasing your man and building up the sexual tension, so that he is practically begging you to blow him is vital if you want to take your blow jobs from good to great.
Thank you for your interest oral sex etiquette. While it's true that women actively pursue a good time, performing oral sex is not the act of martyrdom some would have you believe. You see, a lot of women have an innate attraction to the penis, or at least think it's "neat." Hence, the creation of sex toys, folks. So here's your guide to making the experience enjoyable for all parties involved. It's certainly possible, if you study up.
Compared to its predecessor, the X40 Water Penis Pump is larger and more powerful, with the ability to hold up to 0.71 liters of water, which is what you need to encourage growth. Since it is a hydraulic penis pump, it is safe to use while soaking in the tub or while you are in the shower. Just be careful about which accessory (gator) to use. The X40 Water Penis Pump has ultra-soft insert pads that ensure a solid seal and a safety valve designed for quick suction release.
An intensely pleasurable blow job tip that you can use on him is to use the tip of your tongue to apply a gentle flicking motion to it. While you are naturally going to stimulate his frenulum while sucking him (learn tips on sucking here and here) or just licking his penis (learn some oral sex licking techniques here), this technique is different as you will be focusing all your stimulation on a very specific point on his penis.
Oral sex is "low risk" in terms of getting HIV. There is no transmission risks for receiving oral sex. You probably will not get HIV from giving oral sex either—but having cuts or sores in your mouth, gum disease, having an STI in your throat, or recent dental work increases your risk. If any of these applies, you may consider refraining from performing oral sex to reduce your of exposure to HIV. If you're taking PrEP every day as prescribed, there's very little that you'll get HIV by giving someone a blowjob, or otherwise.   
Sometimes, it just pays to ask. Just like no two women are the same, no two men are the same — and neither are their fantasies. Ask your partner what his ultimate sexy wish is, and then indulge exactly that. Whether he's been dying to see you in a certain type of lingerie or have you dominate him, you'll only know if you ask. Assuming you're in a healthy, honest relationship, he'll be happy to open up.
FYI. I’m not sure about the ice cube technique. The peppermint is nice. But warm tea was nice. For me warm liquid reproduces the warms of a women’s privates incredibly. If any women ever wonders what a man gets to enjoy the only thing I can come close to discribing the sensation is the enjoyable feeling of warmth sensation enveloping a mans member along with the ribbed feeling of the vaginal canal.
Almost all guys fantasize about getting a blow job, 87.6% to exact[4], but if you’re not feeling particularly confident the first few times you try it, then my advice is to stick to the easy-to-perform blow job techniques like the the Up & Down. Mastering this first is a smart way to get comfortable giving your boyfriend a blow job before progressing to more advanced techniques and tactics for giving him oral pleasure like sucking him (tips on sucking him here).
Other slang terms for oral sex include going down on (male or female), licking out and muff diving (female), blow job (male), dome (male or female), sucking off (male), playing the skin flute (male recipient), rolling cigars (male recipient), lolly-gagging (gay male-on-male), gaining knowledge (male recipient) and bust down (male). Forced fellatio is often called Egyptian rape or simply Egyptian; this goes back to the time of the Crusades when Mamluks were alleged to force their Christian captives to do this.[44]
The device has a TPR sleeve that forms a tight seal against your skin, resulting in an incredible suction. It also comes with a digital pressure display that shows you how much pumping you are subjecting yourself to in order to reach your desired girth and length. Regular use with the Auto Vac Power Pump not only gives your schlong a new identity, but also better, more impressive abilities. Apart from achieving the size that you want, you also end up practicing and building up your stamina that will keep you going like a bunny rabbit on steroids.
"Many married men worry they're going to get bored of having sex with just one woman," says Haltzman. That's why role-playing is so effective. In addition to having you — his fabulous wife —your husband can also get feisty with the "barista" or "maid." "Entering into fantasy-mode automatically increases levels of dopamine, the arousal hormone, and elevates your sense of attachment," adds Haltzman. So even after you're through getting down with the "cop" or "pirate," you'll feel closer to each other for having done something novel together.
There are several ways to reduce the risk of HIV transmission from oral sex. Naturally, some will be more acceptable than others to different individuals, so you must make your own decisions about the level of risk you find acceptable. If you would like to discuss these issues, ask to see a health adviser, or other health professional, at your HIV treatment centre or sexual health clinic. Many of the strategies below will also provide protection against other sexually transmitted infections:

12. Sometimes a penis doesn't smell good and that's because some men are disgusting. I don't think anyone expects a hard penis to smell like Chanel perfume or strawberry Lipsmackers or whatever (although OMG, they should) but some guys are less clean than others. Also. People sweat more in the summertime. Consider this. The crotch area is not free of sweat glands. Personally, I don't think it's rude to kindly suggest a sexy shower together beforehand.


Fellatio may reduce the risk of miscarriages by inducing immunological tolerance in the woman by exposure to the proteins in her partner's semen, a process known as paternal tolerance. While any exposure to a partner's semen appears to decrease a woman's chances for the various immunological disorders that can occur during pregnancy, immunological tolerance could be most quickly established through the oral introduction and gastrointestinal absorption of semen.[31][32] Recognizing that some of the studies potentially included the presence of confounding factors, such as the possibility that women who regularly perform fellatio and swallow semen also engage in more frequent intercourse, the researchers also noted that, either way, "the data still overwhelmingly supports the main theory" behind all their studies—that repeated exposure to semen establishes the maternal immunological tolerance necessary for a safe and successful pregnancy.[32][33]
I’m the same way. If he truly enjoys and wants a blow job then you need to be totally enthusiastic. In a way it’s not just the sensation it is part visual and you have to look and sound the part if you will. You have to be sexy. Put on eye make up. And say sexy sensual things to him. Bigger yet use the 69 position to show your beautiful privates to his eyes. I even love seeing sexy underwear myself. Basically you have to stimulate all his senses. But above all he needs to believe you really enjoy having him in your mouth. Think of it akin to overloading his senses to make him believe he is inside your other private part.
Fellatio (also known as fellation,[1] and in slang as blowjob, BJ, giving head, or sucking off[2]) is an oral sex act involving the use of the mouth or throat, which is usually performed by a person on the penis of another person. If performed on oneself, the act is called autofellatio.[3][4] Oral stimulation of the scrotum may also be termed fellatio,[5][6] or colloquially as teabagging.[7]
Individuals are also sometimes abbreviated when referred to in writing, so a dominant person may be referred to as a "dom" for a man or a woman. Sometimes a woman may choose to use the female specific term "Domme". Both terms are pronounced the same when spoken. Individuals who can change between top/dominant and bottom/submissive roles—whether from relationship to relationship or within a given relationship—are known as switches. The precise definition of roles and self-identification is a common subject of debate within the community.[56]
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