Along the same lines of not being bashful, Dr. Jill McDevitt, CalExotics’ Resident Sexologist, says it’s really important to spread the labia during cunnilingus. This way, your partner has the space to approach the clitoris from all angles and sides. “Typically, beginners are really bashful about this, but spread the labia wide, get in the folds, and sensation will improve.” This is also good to keep in mind when you’re receiving cunnilingus. Don’t be afraid to reach down and ~show yourself~ for your partner.


Try this: Britton suggests having him lie on his back and slowly licking from his areola inwards, like an ice cream cone, but never touching tongue to nip. Get closer and closer until you flick his nipple with your tongue and then gently bite it. Britton says, “Men love when you slowly build up the pressure like that, so don’t be afraid to nip him harder than you would like to be,” If you wanna be really extra, you can suck on an ice cube beforehand for more sensation.
You are about to learn 31 profoundly satisfying blow job techniques that will leave your man in a state of orgasmic bliss. This page is Chapter 3 of the Blow Job Guide, you can go back to Chapter 1 here here and Chapter 2 here here when you have finished on this page. Now let’s learn some blow job techniques to make your man’s eyes roll into the back of his head and his toes curl in pleasure…

The Perineum: Also known as the Valley of Gormi, according to my 19-year-old nephew – don’t ask – the area just underneath the family jewels is a major pleasure point. This is because the prostate gland is located there, so while you’re doing his business down there, rub it in a circular motion. It makes things so much hotter. Madonna, is it August again in here?
After massaging him for a few minutes, help him take off his trousers and briefs. Then just keep doing what you were doing, running your hands over his manhood. If you like, you can also softly trace your fingers up and down his dick and around his balls. If you want to learn more hand job techniques, then make sure to check out the Hand Job Guide here.
She looks a lot like my favorite masseuse at a local massage parlor I used to visit very often for a few years. Both women in their 40s, very fit and beautiful and sexy as hell. In fact their bodies look exactly the same. Watching this video took me back to my times at the massage parlor having the hottest sex I have ever had in my life. It was that good. First time I was with my massage girl I went back the very next day for more with her. This hot MILF looks like a great fuck too. I will wear out this hot scene!

Other studies have analyzed the changing attitudes about sex that American adolescents have outside marriage. Adolescents were asked how they felt about oral and vaginal sex in relation to their health, social, and emotional well-being. Overall, teenagers felt that oral sex was viewed as more socially positive amongst their demographic.[73] Results stated that teenagers believed that oral sex for dating and non-dating adolescents was less threatening to their overall values and beliefs than vaginal sex was.[73] When asked, teenagers who participated in the research viewed oral sex as more acceptable to their peers, and their personal values than vaginal sex.[73]
5. Anyone who DEMANDS a blow job is almost certainly not worth a moment of your time. Yeah, this should go without saying, but I'm gonna say it anyway. No one should ever demand or force any sexual act from you, and this goes for blow jobs, too. Some men have this (wrong, completely bogus) idea in their head that they deserve oral sex. LOL, no. If anyone ever says they require a blow job, feel free to say you require hooking up with people who aren't dickheads.
6. It isn't a fancy massage at a spa and therefore doesn't have to be all about him. You ever heard of something called "sensate focus?" It's a sex therapy technique in which you focus on touch and the physical pleasure it brings you, and you can totally use it to ease blow job-anxiety or just ~mix it up~ a little. Basically. instead of doing what you think you're supposed to do to make him feel great, employ blow job techniques that feel fun 'n exciting to you. Oral sex doesn't have to be as one-sided as its reputation says it should be.
I can’t make my boyfriend cum on my own ( hand job and blow job) I feel really bad about it cause I feel like I am failing him. But he thinks it has some thing to do with him because his ex grinded against him in jeans on his bare dick and so he can’t feel it as much i guess ( she grinded against him really hard and when they had sex she made him stick his dick up the side of her shorts which hurt him a lot). Is there any thing I can do? Any one got a tip for me?
It can be dangerous to just bark out “dirty talking lines” hoping they won’t sound dumb. If you don’t feel absolutely natural and confident about saying it then he will not feel natural about hearing it, this can then make him confused, prolong his orgasm, and eventually he might just get completely turned off! I’m not here to teach you the “lines” that you’ll memorize. Instead, you’ll learn some core principles that will then enable you to create your own lines that produce magic for your relationship.
We're not suggesting frighteningly fake porn star-moans, butmen want to know when you're enjoying yourself. "That doesn't necessarily mean you need to talk dirty," says Valentine. "Commands — like 'f--- me harder' — can make us freeze up. Telling us when you like something—'I love it when you f--- me hard'— is far better." You might wonder the point of "oohs" and "ahhs" after all these years — after all, he likely knows what works by now. But if you let yourself go and gasp a little like old times, you may be surprised by how he respond to that validation — and what his renewed excitement will do to you.
Dirty Texts & Sexting – While your man is at work or is just out of the house, try sending him some dirty texts, letting him know about what’s on your mind and what you are planning for later. It can be something filthy like, “I can wait to feel you explode in my mouth tonight.” Or it can be something a little more reserved like, “Can’t wait to see you later…and my lips can’t wait either ;)” Or you can describe in detail the blow job tip you’ve just learned and are going to perform on him.
Don’t forget the rest of his body. The scrotum and testicles (balls) are particularly sensitive, and most men like them to be stimulated. Try lightly licking or touching his testicles during oral sex. He might also like them to be cradled gently in one of your hands. Some men go wild when you place your hand around the top of the scrotum and gently tug down.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about two months now, and especially when I’m having my period I give him blowjobs. The first time I gave him one he came pretty fast, in about 7 minutes, but since then it takes longer. Sometimes I’m giving him a bj for about 30 to 40 minutes, and my jaw starts to hurt really bad or I get back pain from sitting in the same position all the time. When we’re having sex, he can postpone his orgasm to about 45 minutes or something, so he’s just very good at that. Does that have something to do with the fact it just takes him long to cum?
Another risk of oral sex is strain on your relationship, particularly if one of you doesn’t enjoy it or has concerns about it. One partner may have anxiety about their oral sexual performance or what their partner will think of them during oral sex. Or oral sex may make one partner feel under the other partner’s control. These are all important issues to resolve before introducing oral sex into your relationship. 

Alex Comfort and others propose three potential social aspects of sexual intercourse in humans, which are not mutually exclusive: reproductive, relational, and recreational.[47] The development of the contraceptive pill and other highly effective forms of contraception in the mid- and late 20th century has increased people's ability to segregate these three functions, which still overlap a great deal and in complex patterns. For example: A fertile couple may have intercourse while using contraception to experience sexual pleasure (recreational) and also as a means of emotional intimacy (relational), thus deepening their bonding, making their relationship more stable and more capable of sustaining children in the future (deferred reproductive). This same couple may emphasize different aspects of intercourse on different occasions, being playful during one episode of intercourse (recreational), experiencing deep emotional connection on another occasion (relational), and later, after discontinuing contraception, seeking to achieve pregnancy (reproductive, or more likely reproductive and relational).[citation needed]


While commonly believed that lesbian sexual practices involve cunnilingus for all women who have sex with women (WSW), some have an aversion to cunnilingus due to not liking the experience or psychological or social factors, such as finding it unclean.[39][40][41][42] Other WSW believe that it is a necessity or largely defines lesbian sexual activity.[41][42] Lesbian couples are more likely to consider a woman's dislike of cunnilingus as a problem than heterosexual couples are, and it is common for them to seek therapy to overcome inhibitions regarding it.[41]
Along the same lines of not being bashful, Dr. Jill McDevitt, CalExotics’ Resident Sexologist, says it’s really important to spread the labia during cunnilingus. This way, your partner has the space to approach the clitoris from all angles and sides. “Typically, beginners are really bashful about this, but spread the labia wide, get in the folds, and sensation will improve.” This is also good to keep in mind when you’re receiving cunnilingus. Don’t be afraid to reach down and ~show yourself~ for your partner.
3. You can literally ask the guy what he wants. Before your mouth is, ahem, occupied, use it to ask questions. Does he want you to get your hands involved? Does he want to lie down on his back or stand up? Does he prefer lots of noises, or nah? Asking questions and getting answers is not only a fun way to get ~in the mood~, but it can help put any concerns or anxieties you have at ease.
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