^ Jump up to: a b c d See here and pages 47-49 for views on what constitutes virginity loss and therefore sexual intercourse or other sexual activity; source discusses how gay and lesbian individuals define virginity loss, and how the majority of researchers and heterosexuals define virginity loss/"technical virginity" by whether or not a person has engaged in penile-vaginal sex. Laura M. Carpenter (2005). Virginity Lost: An Intimate Portrait of First Sexual Experiences. NYU Press. pp. 295 pages. ISBN 0-8147-1652-0. Retrieved October 9, 2011.
i have found your information very useful, to be honest i have never actually given head before. i wanted some information to get me started and i think this has been really useful. i have talking to my guy about this for a little while now and this has given me more confidence. enthusiasm is the key! i really want to pleasure him, does it feel any different for the man with or without a condom on? should i be using a condom for my first time? is it better to use the flavored lube or condoms for the first time? should i make any eye contact while giving the blow job or will it make it awkward? i dont fancy the idea of swallowing so do i just tell him that before we get started? your information has been really helpful so far but answering this questions would be fantastic! thanks
But not only does it feel good, the Autoblow 2+ makes clean up and hygiene simple. After all, clean is sexy, no doubt about it. And with a toy that lets you fire up and be swallowed without question, you need to keep it thoroughly clean. The interchangeable sleeve system allows for easy cleaning and reuse. You only need a toy cleaner or soapy water to sanitize and get the machine ready for the next action-adventure session.
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Almost all guys fantasize about getting a blow job, 87.6% to exact[4], but if you’re not feeling particularly confident the first few times you try it, then my advice is to stick to the easy-to-perform blow job techniques like the the Up & Down. Mastering this first is a smart way to get comfortable giving your boyfriend a blow job before progressing to more advanced techniques and tactics for giving him oral pleasure like sucking him (tips on sucking him here).

This is where I always hear ‘But it's not real! How can it possibly feel that good?!' And my response is that the interior of the SOM Rocket may not BE real, but it certainly FEELS real. Made of a stretchy material, complete with holes, ridges and bumps for a stimulating effect, it is more than what I could even expect from the ‘real deal'. The material also ensures a tight grip for that snug fit and ultimate stroking and pumping action. But the real bonus is the angled position that mimics how you would be poised when given an actual blowjob, as the SOM Rocket counteracts with its downward thrusting motion.
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We're not suggesting frighteningly fake porn star-moans, butmen want to know when you're enjoying yourself. "That doesn't necessarily mean you need to talk dirty," says Valentine. "Commands — like 'f--- me harder' — can make us freeze up. Telling us when you like something—'I love it when you f--- me hard'— is far better." You might wonder the point of "oohs" and "ahhs" after all these years — after all, he likely knows what works by now. But if you let yourself go and gasp a little like old times, you may be surprised by how he respond to that validation — and what his renewed excitement will do to you.
But now the good news! Other people have literally already been there, done that, and can help you get over your own pre-BJ woes. Whether you're preparing for your first for thousandth blow job, there are always new lessons to be learned. Especially when it comes to dick-in-mouth. Here are 21 pieces of sage guidance that all grown women wish they'd known before giving their first blow jobs.
Act One opens in a theatre in a small Midwest town. The scrubwomen are finishing up cleaning the theatre, looting scraps left from previous performances and gossiping. The crew comes in and begins to set up for a Vaudeville performance. Steve eagerly waits for the performers to arrive. Paradise arrives first with Edgar and their boys. Paradise describes their act and Edgar goes over music cues with The Leader. Terrill then arrives with his Japanese Valet and he begins to flirt with Bobby. Flo comes in as Bobby leaves and Terrill flirts with her as well and speaks of letters that he supposedly sent her in the past. Steve comes back in and warns Terrill to knock off his old ways or he will be thrown out. Steve then warns the dancers of Terrill and begins to assign dressing rooms. Randall and Dolores arrive and as Randall works out some issues with Steve, Terrill confesses his love to Dolores. Dolores worries that Randall will find out about them. Randall and Dolores find out that their electrician doesn't have a union card, which evolves into them arguing about the suspicion Randall has over Dolores and Terrill. The Otto brothers arrive and are missing one of their partners. Stanley agrees to help with their act as he used to be an acrobat himself. The act ends with Arnold fiddling with lights and Randall starting to rehearse with Dolores and the dancers.

According to the completed research associated with this model, it was found that people of both sexes who engaged in sexual activity for self-determined motivation had more positive psychological well-being.[16] While engaging in sexual activity for self-determined reasons, the participants also had a higher need for fulfillment. When this need was satisfied, they felt better about themselves. This was correlated with greater closeness to their partner and higher overall satisfaction in their relationship.[16] Though both sexes engaged in sexual activity for self-determined reasons, there were some differences found between males and females. It was concluded that females had more motivation than males to engage in sexual activity for self-determined reasons.[16] Females also had higher satisfaction and relationship quality than males did from the sexual activity.[16] Overall, research concluded that psychological well-being, sexual motivation, and sexual satisfaction were all positively correlated when dating couples partook in sexual activity for self-determined reasons.[16]

If you’re happy and comfortable with the person you’re with then oral sex can be a great way to get physically closer and learn what turns each other on. But remember that you can pause or stop at any point you want, and the same is true for your partner. Just because you have started something doesn’t mean you need to continue – stopping is actually very normal.


90% of men adore when women give them a blowjob; also, it is quite important for women to make it more diverse and not in such a systematic way, because there is a major risk for her to be tired of it. There is a great range of blowjob positions, starting from the most traditional, with a relaxedmanlying on his back, to the fastidious one, when a denuded female partner at the maximum leveloverwhelms all the sensations experienced by her male partner. Primarily, a blowjob position directly-proportionally depends on your partner’s preferences, thus, take in mind all his feelings and desires. The blowjob involves using the hands and mouth, fingers, skilled tongue and even breast: caresshis penisgently, be sufficientlyrude, – and the resultwill not be long in coming. Many of women consider blowjob as something insufferable, but mind the fact, that while using such a petting, the man is entirely under your control and you may do with him everything you want.

For oral sex on a man, use a condom during oral sex. For oral sex on a woman, or when performing anilingus on a man or a woman, use a dam. A dam is a small thin latex or plastic square that acts as a barrier between the vagina or anus and the mouth. It may prevent the spread of STIs. You can buy dams at some sexual health clinics, online or at your pharmacy. 

Sure, guys have a reputation for wanting to get it on within seconds, but don't get forget that the buildup can be just as hot. Whether it's a sexy text you send to get him excited or slowly disrobing for an impromptu a striptease, try getting him revved up before you even start. Why rush to the main event when you can build up to something even hotter?
Hey guys. So me and my boy friend have been dating for about five days now. And he really wants to have sex with me. But I’ve never done it before. And this website is too much to remember. What’s simple enough for me to turn him on? Like, what’s the simplest way to suck his dick. And does it hurt? I have to say, he does turn me on. And I turn him on too. I just don’t want to panic when I do it with him. Any tips?
14. You can use your tongue to trick him into thinking he's all the way in your mouth. Like ~magic~ if magic were perverted and used only to trick men into thinking you give the best blow jobs in the world. You don't have to just tuck your tongue away and hide it while this event is taking place. You can use it (like the roof of your mouth thing) to trick him into thinking he's basically pumping away into your stomach. Just either tuck his penis underneath your tongue, or use your tongue to block the back of your throat (this also protects your delicate gag reflexes just in case).
Powerful industrial strength motor - Without the motor, this would be like any other toy out there. That's why it's so important to have a strong, durable motor. The makers of Autoblow 2+ claim that it's an industrial strength motor, and while I have no way of actually confirming that myself, I will say that it is very powerful, and it sure does get the job done!
It is possible for a person whose sexual identity is mainly heterosexual to engage in sexual acts with people of the same sex. For example, mutual masturbation in the context of what may be considered normal heterosexual teen development. Gay and lesbian people who pretend to be heterosexual are often referred to as being closeted (hiding their sexuality in "the closet"). "Closet case" is a derogatory term used to refer to people who hide their sexuality. Making that orientation public can be called "coming out of the closet" in the case of voluntary disclosure or "outing" in the case of disclosure by others against the subject's wishes (or without their knowledge). Among some communities (called "men on the DL" or "down-low"), same-sex sexual behavior is sometimes viewed as solely for physical pleasure. Men who have sex with men, as well as women who have sex with women, or men on the "down-low" may engage in sex acts with members of the same sex while continuing sexual and romantic relationships with the opposite sex.
Oral sex is commonly used as a means of preserving virginity, especially among heterosexual pairings; this is sometimes termed technical virginity (which additionally includes anal sex, mutual masturbation and other non-penetrative sex acts, but excludes penile-vaginal sex).[7][8][9][11] The concept of "technical virginity" or sexual abstinence through oral sex is popular among teenagers.[12][13] Additionally, gay males may regard oral sex as a way of maintaining their virginities, with penile-anal penetration defined as resulting in virginity loss, while other gay males may define oral sex as their main form of sexual activity.[7][14] By contrast, lesbian pairings commonly view oral sex or fingering as resulting in virginity loss, though definitions of virginity loss vary among lesbians as well.[7][10][15]

Drive him wild: Have your man lie on his stomach and give him a massage by doing light, karate-chop type movements along his sacrum. "Doing this not only stimulates those sacral nerves, but also triggers the parasympathetic nervous system which is key for relaxing, letting go, and having an orgasm," Michaels says. (Related: 7 Tips for a Better Orgasm)
Sexual activity can be classified in a number of ways: acts which involve one person (also called autoeroticism) such as masturbation, or two or more people such as vaginal sex, anal sex, oral sex or mutual masturbation. If there are more than two participants in the sex act, it may be referred to as group sex. Autoerotic sexual activity can involve use of dildos, vibrators, anal beads, and other sex toys, though these devices can also be used with a partner.
Don’t be afraid of breaking out the vibrator! It can be an invaluable tool to the art of oral.  The average woman takes 20 minutes to climax from oral sex, so you’re going to be there for a while. There’s no shame in implementing the help of a tried-and-true toy, suggests Somoza. “Use something small and easily handled so you can still feel like you’re in control,” she says. “Put the vibrator on the clitoral hood, then spend some time with your tongue in the labia area.” 

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about two months now, and especially when I’m having my period I give him blowjobs. The first time I gave him one he came pretty fast, in about 7 minutes, but since then it takes longer. Sometimes I’m giving him a bj for about 30 to 40 minutes, and my jaw starts to hurt really bad or I get back pain from sitting in the same position all the time. When we’re having sex, he can postpone his orgasm to about 45 minutes or something, so he’s just very good at that. Does that have something to do with the fact it just takes him long to cum?
For oral sex on a man, use a condom during oral sex. For oral sex on a woman, or when performing anilingus on a man or a woman, use a dam. A dam is a small thin latex or plastic square that acts as a barrier between the vagina or anus and the mouth. It may prevent the spread of STIs. You can buy dams at some sexual health clinics, online or at your pharmacy. 

Fellatio (also known as fellation,[1] and in slang as blowjob, BJ, giving head, or sucking off[2]) is an oral sex act involving the use of the mouth or throat, which is usually performed by a person on the penis of another person. If performed on oneself, the act is called autofellatio.[3][4] Oral stimulation of the scrotum may also be termed fellatio,[5][6] or colloquially as teabagging.[7]


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Dr. Jack Summers, director of research for San Francisco's Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, says, "It's just like sucking a Popsicle. It shouldn't be any more ergonomically challenging." In turn, Ted McIlvenna, president of the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, has accumulated reams of data on this very subject. Upon learning of 13 cases of whiplash, he determined that "when you lean over too much, the jaw can be inconvenienced." He suggests that anything that will make a man orgasm faster will help reduce the number of this kind of repetitive-motion injury. He says the "number-one culprit" of men not orgasming faster is drinking too much. So, don't.

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