But now the good news! Other people have literally already been there, done that, and can help you get over your own pre-BJ woes. Whether you're preparing for your first for thousandth blow job, there are always new lessons to be learned. Especially when it comes to dick-in-mouth. Here are 21 pieces of sage guidance that all grown women wish they'd known before giving their first blow jobs. 

When you feel like she’s getting close to her climax, continue what you’re doing! But—and here’s the disclaimer—she may not always come. It’s not a reflection of your ability. “Don’t be so ‘goal-oriented’ and caught up in your own ego,” Somoza advises. “Your only goal should be to make her feel good. One of the sexiest things about a man is when he acts like being between a woman’s legs is his favorite place in the whole wide world. A lot of what makes great oral sex is the attitude you show your partner.”
It is difficult for some people to perform fellatio, due to their sensitivities to the natural gag reflex. Different people have different sensitivities to the reflex, but some people learn to suppress the reflex. Deep-throating is an act in which a man's partner takes the entire erect penis deep into their mouth, in such a way as to enter their throat.
FYI. I’m not sure about the ice cube technique. The peppermint is nice. But warm tea was nice. For me warm liquid reproduces the warms of a women’s privates incredibly. If any women ever wonders what a man gets to enjoy the only thing I can come close to discribing the sensation is the enjoyable feeling of warmth sensation enveloping a mans member along with the ribbed feeling of the vaginal canal.
Bacterial vaginosis (vaginal inflammation caused by bacterial overgrowth) is easily spread from woman to woman, but HIV/AIDS is much less likely to be passed on this way, for example. If you’re a lesbian or bisexual woman who has had sex with men, you’re more at risk of the full range of STIs. Talk to your doctor about testing if you’re concerned you may be at risk.

Focus on the Tip – According to one study, the top part or glans of your man’s penis[1] is the most sensitive part, specifically the underside of his glans[2], but if your man is circumcised then it will be slightly less sensitive. Try focusing of licking the tip of his penis (the glans) using the least amount of pressure possible. Many guys report this being their absolute favorite blow job technique. You can even try doing this for your entire blow job until he comes. More on this here.


How to find it: "Men have a relatively higher concentration of nerve endings in the soles of their feet than women do," says Mark Michaels, coauthor of Partners in Passion: A Guide to Great Sex, Emotional Intimacy, and Long-Term Love. "There is an acupressure point about one-third of the way down from the third toe, right in front of the arch in the center of the foot." Nicknamed the "bubbling spring," pressing on this point may boost blood flow throughout the body, getting him all hot and bothered.
Yeah, get it squared away now while you’re young, or give her up. In 35 years of marriage my wife hasn’t done anything with her mouth, ever, including kissing (I just don’t care for it!) She’s always hated the idea of giving head (only sluts do that!). She won’t let me go down on her (gross!), won’t uncover her breasts (I’m cold!), won’t touch me with her hands (jerk yourself off!), and won’t spread her legs (it hurts!). Other than that we have a great sex life.

Research has found that people also engage in sexual activity for reasons associated with self-determination theory. The self-determination theory can be applied to a sexual relationship when the participants have positive feelings associated with the relationship. These participants do not feel guilty or coerced into the partnership.[15] Researchers have proposed the model of self-determined sexual motivation. The purpose of this model is to connect self-determination and sexual motivation.[16] This model has helped to explain how people are sexually motivated when involved in self-determined dating relationships. This model also links the positive outcomes, (satisfying the need for autonomy, competence, and relatedness) gained from sexual motivations.[16]
18. Literally no one can deep-throat without gagging. I vaguely remember some girl in, like, ninth grade telling me that all grown women literally swallow lidocaine or the stuff in those Orajel swabs before giving a blow job so they don't gag on a dick. Don't do this! Don't drink lidocaine! No! The solution here is to just not deep-throat a penis. Gag reflexes exist for a reason. And you definitely don't want to throw up on someone you ostensibly like.

Holding still isn't something this toy has an inkling of. Once you fire it up, you can enjoy a lot of vibration that comes in two speeds, aptly named ‘Hummer' and ‘Whip'. No doubt, the Xtreme Head Exciter will give you the cock-sucking and whipping action that you need. But what I really love about it is the fact that I can change the speed in the middle of the action. A little variety goes a long way, and there are times when I want to start out slow and end up with a mind-blowing zoom. You can change the speeds with just a slide of the controller. The Xtreme Head Exciter is definitely a head game changer.
As someone who was sexually abused throughout most of my childhood, I’ve been reluctant to give head because of the flashbacks. I’ve been reading your blog for a few days now, and I feel confident in knowing more techniques to try out on my partner that are 100% different from all that bad stuff. In the twelve years since I’ve escaped, I’ve never felt so confident to try this out with my partner, so THANK YOU! I’m sure he will enjoy it too!
Most world religions have sought to address the moral issues that arise from people's sexuality in society and in human interactions. Each major religion has developed moral codes covering issues of sexuality, morality, ethics etc. Though these moral codes do not address issues of sexuality directly, they seek to regulate the situations which can give rise to sexual interest and to influence people's sexual activities and practices. However, the effect of religious teaching has at times been limited. For example, though most religions disapprove of extramarital sexual relations, it has always been widely practiced. Nevertheless, these religious codes have always had a strong influence on peoples' attitudes to issues of modesty in dress, behavior, speech etc.

Ladies sexy hot talk a wet tongue and mouth can make a man beg you to suck his dick. While rubbing his cock through his jeans. Whisper in his ear how you want to lick his dick and feel his cock get hard in your mouth as u suck it. Slowly unzip his pants while looking up at him. Rub it as u unzip. Breathing hard and looking into his eyes, start licking the head of his dick work down on it slowly making sure to get it very wet. Tell him how good his cock tastes. Stroking it gently as it goes in and out of your mouth. Gently stroke his dick as u look at him and whisper my pussy is getting so wet licking your cock. Take his hand and run it slowly down to your pussy and guid him gently to touch you juicy pussy. Again gently guid his hand to your mouth and lick the juice off his fingers. Moaning as u taste your pussy juice. Men love seeing a woman hot and in control. Be sexy just soft slow makes me hotter.
The prostate might be new territory for you, or it might be new territory for you and your guy, or maybe he's been too shy to ask for a finger up his butt, but don't leave the prostate unattended. It's time to show your guy how much pleasure he is missing in his derrière. "A lot of the penis is internal; it almost looks like a boomerang," explains Fleming. With back-door play, "you're massaging these internal nerve endings and that can feel really good." Start by adding a finger when you're both highly aroused. Soon enough, he'll be wondering why he wasn't already experimenting with prostate play. "It's definitely worth testing those waters," says Fleming.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about two months now, and especially when I’m having my period I give him blowjobs. The first time I gave him one he came pretty fast, in about 7 minutes, but since then it takes longer. Sometimes I’m giving him a bj for about 30 to 40 minutes, and my jaw starts to hurt really bad or I get back pain from sitting in the same position all the time. When we’re having sex, he can postpone his orgasm to about 45 minutes or something, so he’s just very good at that. Does that have something to do with the fact it just takes him long to cum?
Try this: reverse finger job. Make two tight rings around his penis with your thumb and index finger (like you’re doing the okay hand symbol 👌), stacking them one on top of the other, in the middle of his shaft. Twist the rings in opposite directions moving from middle to the top and base of his shaft at the same time. Cox calls this a “torrid twist” the the typical one-handed uppy-downey handy. Remember to use lube, though!

But get this; the toy has one majorly awesome function - thrust. Imagine not being the one thrusting yet still enjoying the satisfaction. From slow to a thrusting frenzy, you will be firing heavy rounds with the Xtreme Head Exciter in no time. To ensure that your fantasies don't get muddled with the fact that you have an automatic knob gobbler in your hand, the toy has a rippled texture that stimulates every ridge and ripple you have. 3 inches of soft, slippery and tight texture on the inside of the machine invokes a realistic feel, giving you that same experience of when a soft mouth closes in on you for a tight and snug fit, and allows you to explore and touch every corner. As the up and down motion starts, you just can't help but let the sensations rule over your head.

The first thing to know about going down on your lady is that if she’s not relaxed, she’s not going to enjoy it. “One of the sexiest things a guy has ever said to me was ‘get comfortable,’” says Los Angeles-based sex expert and radio host Lora Somoza. “The woman can get really self-conscious over how long it’s going to take them to orgasm, and if she feels like she’s with some guy that isn’t in a rush, that’s incredibly sexy.”
Relative to other animals, human mating strategies are unique in their relationship with cultural variables such as the institution of marriage.[3] Humans may seek out individuals with the intention of forming a long-term intimate relationship, marriage, casual relationship, or friendship. The human desire for companionship is one of the strongest human drives. It is an innate feature of human nature, and may be related to the sex drive. The human mating process encompasses the social and cultural processes whereby one person may meet another to assess suitability, the courtship process and the process of forming an interpersonal relationship. Commonalities, however, can be found between humans and nonhuman animals in mating behavior (see animal sexual behavior).
Designed to easily fit between your legs, the machine is compact and small, yet very powerful. Just watching the video demonstration of the Men's SOM Rocket Blowjob Machine would make you shake your head in disbelief, but of course, in a really good way. No one, (and I mean no one) would be able to give you a blowjob as good or as fast as this pleasure device does.
Expecting Payback – In the ideal world, every partner would selflessly provide their loved one with endless pleasure, never asking for anything in return. Of course, this a little unrealistic and unworkable in the real world. However, you should never see love making (or blow jobs!) as something you only do in order receive an equal amount of pleasure in return.

A person may engage in sexual activity for purely monetary considerations, or to obtain some advantage from either the partner or the activity. A man and woman may engage in sexual intercourse with the objective of conception. Some people engage in hate sex, which occurs between two people who strongly dislike or annoy each other. It is related to the idea that opposition between two people can heighten sexual tension, attraction and interest.[13]
Oral sex is commonly used as a means of preserving virginity, especially among heterosexual pairings; this is sometimes termed technical virginity (which additionally includes anal sex, mutual masturbation and other non-penetrative sex acts, but excludes penile-vaginal sex).[7][8][9][11] The concept of "technical virginity" or sexual abstinence through oral sex is popular among teenagers.[12][13] Additionally, gay males may regard oral sex as a way of maintaining their virginities, with penile-anal penetration defined as resulting in virginity loss, while other gay males may define oral sex as their main form of sexual activity.[7][14] By contrast, lesbian pairings commonly view oral sex or fingering as resulting in virginity loss, though definitions of virginity loss vary among lesbians as well.[7][10][15]
My wife has always been a giver since we met. She was the first one to ever do that for me and it was the best feeling any woman ever gave me. She is always practicing her craft to get better and man there ain’t no better intimacy than a woman who loves her man and uses her oral skills to make it the best she can for her man. And because she is so good and loving at it I have no interest in having an affair, it’s the most cruel and humiliating thing I could ever do to her. I love my wife for a lot of other reasons besides good sex, and I could not hurt her like this. I trust her and she trusts me, and I think that trust is partly what makes for great intimacy, and the ability to completely let go of ones self while under the control of another. And an orgasm comes while under the control of another person. So as long as she is in control of giving me mind blowing orgasms, I just have to let go and let her control my orgasm, and bring it to an explosive ending. And for that, I applaud her and thank her for it. Babe I love you. 

How to find it: The sacrum is the triangular bone located at the base of his spine in between his hips (think: the small of his back). There are nerves in the sacrum that are linked to the genitals, so stimulating these nerves can send sensations to his manly parts. In fact, some studies show that electrical stimulation of these nerves can trigger orgasm.
Sure, guys have a reputation for wanting to get it on within seconds, but don't get forget that the buildup can be just as hot. Whether it's a sexy text you send to get him excited or slowly disrobing for an impromptu a striptease, try getting him revved up before you even start. Why rush to the main event when you can build up to something even hotter?
Other studies have analyzed the changing attitudes about sex that American adolescents have outside marriage. Adolescents were asked how they felt about oral and vaginal sex in relation to their health, social, and emotional well-being. Overall, teenagers felt that oral sex was viewed as more socially positive amongst their demographic.[73] Results stated that teenagers believed that oral sex for dating and non-dating adolescents was less threatening to their overall values and beliefs than vaginal sex was.[73] When asked, teenagers who participated in the research viewed oral sex as more acceptable to their peers, and their personal values than vaginal sex.[73]
Once you've cleaned the sleeve, make sure that you let it dry 100% - the last thing you want is to store it away wet and find that it smells the next time you take it out. So once it's dry, I recommend using the storage case that you can buy from the Autoblow 2+ website. It's nice a simple, compact, and fairly discreet. But if you opt not to use that, find a box or even wrap it in an old t-shirt. Essentially, keep it covered so that it is free from collecting dust and debris which can harm the delicate skin-like material of the sleeves.
Hey guys. So me and my boy friend have been dating for about five days now. And he really wants to have sex with me. But I’ve never done it before. And this website is too much to remember. What’s simple enough for me to turn him on? Like, what’s the simplest way to suck his dick. And does it hurt? I have to say, he does turn me on. And I turn him on too. I just don’t want to panic when I do it with him. Any tips?
Most of the men we spoke with confided that they're interested in trying — or having more — anal sex. "The almost forbidden nature of this act and the vulnerability it requires from you make it something men really want to experience, but don't want to suggest out of fear of offending you," says Mendez. If you'd be up for experimenting with anal and suspect your husband would enjoy it, initiate a conversation. Not quite ready for anal just yet? Try these almost-anal positions.
Most societies consider it a serious crime to force someone to engage in sexual acts or to engage in sexual activity with someone who does not consent. This is called sexual assault, and if sexual penetration occurs it is called rape, the most serious kind of sexual assault. The details of this distinction may vary among different legal jurisdictions. Also, what constitutes effective consent in sexual matters varies from culture to culture and is frequently debated. Laws regulating the minimum age at which a person can consent to have sex (age of consent) are frequently the subject of debate, as is adolescent sexual behavior in general. Some societies have forced marriage, where consent may not be required.
Next, you are simply going to bob your head up and down, taking his penis in and out of your mouth. Bobbing your head up and down is super simple to start with, especially if you just concentrate on the top inch or two of his penis. As you get comfortable with this, try taking him deeper and deeper with each stroke so that you can stimulate more and more of his penis.
I have no idea really how to be sexy. I have no imagination when it comes to sex. My husband is a freak and wants to do new things. Things I don’t really care to do but I do them because he likes it. Tried the three some thing. Hated it refuse to do it again. Just the thought of him with another woman irritates me. I’m simple. My wants and desires are simple. I just want to be wanted. Is there something wrong with me if I have no desire to not explore new things ? How do I get out of that feeling? He expects me to come up with new things and I truly don’t know what else to do. Right now we are exploring dildos and strap ons. This also made me read about blow jobs. I’m not very good at it and he’s made that clear. I gag if it goes too deep I gag if there’s just a hint of cum. He asks me if I like certain things I say yes because I know it turns him on when I really don’t like it. Any advice for the non sexual person?

Drive him wild: "Gently flicking the raphe with your tongue feels great to most men," Cavanah says. "Let him guide you on how much pressure he likes, because the amount varies depending on the guy." To get him really hot, sip on very warm tea and then flick your heated tongue over this sensitive area. He'll lose himself in the new feelings, and novelty can make for more powerful orgasms.   
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