Don’t be afraid of breaking out the vibrator! It can be an invaluable tool to the art of oral.  The average woman takes 20 minutes to climax from oral sex, so you’re going to be there for a while. There’s no shame in implementing the help of a tried-and-true toy, suggests Somoza. “Use something small and easily handled so you can still feel like you’re in control,” she says. “Put the vibrator on the clitoral hood, then spend some time with your tongue in the labia area.”

I’m not really a head giver and but it’s only because I don’t really have any confidence in doing it. Now yesterday I came across your website on facebook and click on it. Once I read the tips that you have posted, I took heed to them. Now be and my bf have been together for 8yrs and when I give him a BJ it’s usually no longer than 5mins. but today I tried some things you’ve posted and he actually admitted to it that it was the best BJ that I have ever done and that it was the first time that I made his eye actually role to the back of his head. When he told me this it made me feel so good and happy inside like I actually knew what I was doing. His actual was were “Damn babe I didn’t know you had it in you like that, it actually felt like I was cumming but I knew I wasn’t.” My thing is what are other things that I can do to keep him like this in this shocking stage? I like to keep him guessing and always want to try new things when giving him a BJ just without him knowing what I’m going to do next. All I really want is to make him cum with just a BJ but he takes longer with those then him being inside of me, what are the key things that I need to do to put him on his a** to the point that he can’t believe what I just did to him. PLEASE HELP ME……BECOME A PRO


But the good thing is, there's the Men's SOM Rocket Blowjob Machine. Hey, if a living, breathing person can't do it, I'll let the robot do it. I don't want to be picky where my climactic experience is concerned. Like most automatic blowjob toys, this baby is pretty precise, powerful and very reliable. I don't even have to tell it to keep going or whether to swallow or spit it out.
3. You can literally ask the guy what he wants. Before your mouth is, ahem, occupied, use it to ask questions. Does he want you to get your hands involved? Does he want to lie down on his back or stand up? Does he prefer lots of noises, or nah? Asking questions and getting answers is not only a fun way to get ~in the mood~, but it can help put any concerns or anxieties you have at ease.
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Thank you for your interest oral sex etiquette. While it's true that women actively pursue a good time, performing oral sex is not the act of martyrdom some would have you believe. You see, a lot of women have an innate attraction to the penis, or at least think it's "neat." Hence, the creation of sex toys, folks. So here's your guide to making the experience enjoyable for all parties involved. It's certainly possible, if you study up.
Dr. Jack Summers, director of research for San Francisco's Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, says, "It's just like sucking a Popsicle. It shouldn't be any more ergonomically challenging." In turn, Ted McIlvenna, president of the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, has accumulated reams of data on this very subject. Upon learning of 13 cases of whiplash, he determined that "when you lean over too much, the jaw can be inconvenienced." He suggests that anything that will make a man orgasm faster will help reduce the number of this kind of repetitive-motion injury. He says the "number-one culprit" of men not orgasming faster is drinking too much. So, don't.
The risk of HIV being passed on during oral sex centres on fluid containing HIV (semen, vaginal fluid or blood) finding a way into the bloodstream of an HIV-negative person (via the mouth or throat, which is more likely if there is inflammation, or cuts or sores present). HIV is not passed on through exposure to saliva alone, so a person with HIV performing oral sex on someone who is HIV negative is not considered to be a transmission risk.
This is a letter of success.. though not what I set out to succeed but success none the less. Christian never did get a second bj out of me because I dumped his sorry ass after him putting me down one time too often. I met a new guy in Arizona... and last night we had our third date - here at my house for swimming, dinner cooked by me and hang out.
Holding still isn't something this toy has an inkling of. Once you fire it up, you can enjoy a lot of vibration that comes in two speeds, aptly named ‘Hummer' and ‘Whip'. No doubt, the Xtreme Head Exciter will give you the cock-sucking and whipping action that you need. But what I really love about it is the fact that I can change the speed in the middle of the action. A little variety goes a long way, and there are times when I want to start out slow and end up with a mind-blowing zoom. You can change the speeds with just a slide of the controller. The Xtreme Head Exciter is definitely a head game changer.
If you’re happy and comfortable with the person you’re with then oral sex can be a great way to get physically closer and learn what turns each other on. But remember that you can pause or stop at any point you want, and the same is true for your partner. Just because you have started something doesn’t mean you need to continue – stopping is actually very normal.
It is difficult for some people to perform fellatio, due to their sensitivities to the natural gag reflex. Different people have different sensitivities to the reflex, but some people learn to suppress the reflex. Deep-throating is an act in which a man's partner takes the entire erect penis deep into their mouth, in such a way as to enter their throat.
After massaging him for a few minutes, help him take off his trousers and briefs. Then just keep doing what you were doing, running your hands over his manhood. If you like, you can also softly trace your fingers up and down his dick and around his balls. If you want to learn more hand job techniques, then make sure to check out the Hand Job Guide here. 

Like last night. I was pretty tired but we were both kind of horny and I gave him a bj, but it just didn’t really work out. I was busy for a long time – I don’t even know exactly – and he would get very hard and then softer again, over and over. At one point I was kind of done with it because I had pain in my back and jaw, and he said ‘let me get you back on track’ and he took over for a minute and then let me finish it with my mouth, and he had a very intense orgasm. But I don’t know I really felt like a failure, because it was the first time I didn’t do it all on my own. I’m kind of insecure about my techniques now but he says I’m the first girl to let him cum from a blowjob ever (and he has quite some experience).
The coup de gras would be to qickly alternate with regular penetration. Each time bringing him closer and closer to climate when inside of you eventually when he is on the cusp of exploding inside of you quickly take him in your mouth and and keep him in your mouth (think of it as practicing or getting him acustomed to being able to climax in your mouth). Or even maybe surprising him when he is behind you quickly turn around and suck him. Even after regular sex. Don’t stop after he finishes. Women get multiple orgasms at least I wish all girls get to enjoy that. Why shouldn’t a guy get a bonus after climaxing. Note as someone else stated gagging is not a turn on. You need to show that you enjoy cum in your mouth.
It doesn’t matter how memorable your oral skills may be — if your partner is distracted or stuck in her head, she is not going to be able to enjoy herself. “Oral sex offers an interesting paradox; many women love it yet it can find it so challenging to relax into the moment. This is why so many women tense up when their partner goes down," says Dr. Emily Morse, host of the Sex With Emily podcast and author of Hot Sex: Over 200 Things You Can Try Tonight. "The best thing you can say to a woman is, ‘Relax, I’ve got all night.' " Since women can worry about whether you want to be down there and may be self-conscious about how long it takes them to get off, a quick reassurance will go a long way.

You know that beautiful agony you feel as you build up to cumming at a snails pace, and then your man backs off a bit…then he again starts building you up even closer to orgasm? You wish it would come faster, but the entire slow, drawn out process is still incredibly enjoyable. More importantly, all that build up makes your orgasm far more intensely when you do eventually climax.

Compared to its predecessor, the X40 Water Penis Pump is larger and more powerful, with the ability to hold up to 0.71 liters of water, which is what you need to encourage growth. Since it is a hydraulic penis pump, it is safe to use while soaking in the tub or while you are in the shower. Just be careful about which accessory (gator) to use. The X40 Water Penis Pump has ultra-soft insert pads that ensure a solid seal and a safety valve designed for quick suction release.
I have no idea really how to be sexy. I have no imagination when it comes to sex. My husband is a freak and wants to do new things. Things I don’t really care to do but I do them because he likes it. Tried the three some thing. Hated it refuse to do it again. Just the thought of him with another woman irritates me. I’m simple. My wants and desires are simple. I just want to be wanted. Is there something wrong with me if I have no desire to not explore new things ? How do I get out of that feeling? He expects me to come up with new things and I truly don’t know what else to do. Right now we are exploring dildos and strap ons. This also made me read about blow jobs. I’m not very good at it and he’s made that clear. I gag if it goes too deep I gag if there’s just a hint of cum. He asks me if I like certain things I say yes because I know it turns him on when I really don’t like it. Any advice for the non sexual person?
thank you thank you thank you! just your articles helped sooooo much! I use to HATE HATE HATE giving blowjobs because i had NO idea how to but i read your online articles and now thats all my boyfriend wants me to do. As weird as it sounds it also has helped our relationship and we arent fighting as much anymore. its an amazing transformation so THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!
For sure, it all depends on what you feel comfortable with. You could tell your man how much you are looking forward to going down on him along with exactly what you’re going to do to him before you go down on him. During the blow job itself, you could let him know how good he tastes and how hot he makes you. Make sure to check out the dirty phrases section, along with all these dirty talking articles for more advice. This video should also help give you some ideas on what to say to him.
Designed to easily fit between your legs, the machine is compact and small, yet very powerful. Just watching the video demonstration of the Men's SOM Rocket Blowjob Machine would make you shake your head in disbelief, but of course, in a really good way. No one, (and I mean no one) would be able to give you a blowjob as good or as fast as this pleasure device does.
Jerk & Suck – Jerking your man off while giving him a handjob at the same time is a super way to maximize his pleasure. Simply take the first inch or two of his penis into your mouth and then wrap one hand around his shaft. While using a simple technique like the Suck On This technique I described in Chapter 2, you can also run your hand up and down his shaft at the same time, giving him a handjob.
So you could have a look at Text Your Ex Back, written by Michael Fiore, who has provided relationship advice over the years, and is responsible for programs such as Text Your Ex Back, Text Your Wife Into Bed, and Text The Romance Back. Check this out if you want to know how to restore intimacy with your ex girlfriend. And if you simply want advice on how to get your ex back, you can get the information you need here.
Trust and communication are essential here. The man must exercise enough self-control to keep the thrusting comfortable and pleasurable for his lover, while the receiver must stay relaxed and receptive enough to receive the thrusts. If you want to try irrumatio, we recommend having a hand signal in place to communicate if the thrusts ever get too deep or too fast. This oral sex position can be wildly thrilling for both partners if done with respect and awareness.
In a 2015 study, interviewed BDSM participants have mentioned that the activities have helped to create higher levels of connection, intimacy, trust and communication between partners.[55] The study suggests that dominants and submissives exchange control for each other's pleasure and to satisfy a need. The participants have remarked that they enjoy pleasing their partner in any way they can and many surveyed have felt that this is one of the best things about BDSM. It gives a submissive pleasure to do things in general for their dominant. Where a Dominant enjoys making their encounters all about the submissive. They enjoy doing things that makes their submissive happy. The findings indicate that the surveyed submissives and dominants found BDSM play more pleasurable and fun. The participants have also mentioned improvements in their personal growth, romantic relationships, sense of community and self, the dominant's confidence, and their coping with everyday things by giving them a psychological release.[55]
Most people engage in sexual activity because of pleasure they derive from the arousal of their sexuality, especially if they can achieve orgasm. Sexual arousal can also be experienced from foreplay and flirting, and from fetish or BDSM activities,[1][11] or other erotic activities. Most commonly, people engage in sexual activity because of the sexual desire generated by a person to whom they feel sexual attraction; but they may engage in sexual activity for the physical satisfaction they achieve in the absence of attraction for another, as in the case of casual or social sex.[12] At times, a person may engage in a sexual activity solely for the sexual pleasure of their partner, such as because of an obligation they may have to the partner or because of love, sympathy or pity they may feel for the partner.
You already know how sensitive your boyfriend’s penis is, especially the underside of head (aka the glans) [7]. For pleasuring it, this is obviously a good thing…but if you apply too much pressure, or you are too rough with it, then you’re going to hurt your man. It’s the same for your clit and vagina if you are masturbating or your man is going down on you. Learn some orgasmic masturbation techniques from Chapter 2 of our Masturbation Guide.
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Fellatio is legal in most countries. Laws of some jurisdictions regard fellatio as penetrative sex for the purposes of sexual offenses with regard to the act, but most countries do not have laws which ban the practice, in contrast to anal sex or extramarital sex. In Islamic literature, the only forms of sexual activity that are consistently explicitly prohibited within marriage are anal sex and sexual activity during menstrual cycles.[40] However, the exact attitude towards oral sex is a subject of disagreements between modern scholars of Islam. Authorities considering it "objectionable" do so because of the penis's supposedly impure fluids coming in contact with the mouth.[41] Others emphasize that there is no decisive evidence to forbid oral sex.[42]
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